My impression is that you're discounting the effect of biology on thinking, sexuality, "spirit". Maybe believing otherwise is a product of human fabrication.
I think thats one of the messages the episode tries to portray. That our physical bodies and experiences take us away from our true core self. When those guys were in the virtual world they were free to be like absolute spirits and had the choice to take any body/vessel they wanted. At your purest core without external influence you should be able to dance with any unconstrained spirit. So our nature and nurture shape us, mold us and we develop our personality and ego. The stronger this influence is the further away we are from our truth, spirit and the core. When those guys tried kissing outside the video game they were disgusted when they shared the physical contact. However they still remained entangled in spirits even after they exited the game which started to affect their real life and relationships. It was so deep. Kind of how we get entangled with various relationships when our spirits get entangled. I would also be disgusted if I tried kissing another guy or even if a guy massaged me I would never want that even if I had the worst back pain I would still pick a female. But I understand why people would and do live this lifestyle. I know if the girl I loved was trans or something I think I still would love her. Maybe we shut ourselves off because of these nurture teaching and lose out of potential relationships that come across our paths.
I believe in this stuff because I fee this entanglement ATM with someone IRL thats not my SO. Even though we try our hardest to pretend it’s starting to crack our physical realms because the entangled keeps affecting our spirits that we are starting to even say the words while trying to have a normal conversation in the physical pretending like nothing is going on. I know exactly when she is thinking about me and she knows when I think about her. I know exactly when she is around even when I don’t see her. This was also happening in that show when the married guy tried cutting the other guy off. It was very well done.
Reason why I believe in this shit so bad is because I went deep deeep down this spiritual rabbit hole as far as it will go staying up for 2 years almost every till 3/4/5 in the morning getting like 2/3hrs of sleep and getting my brain into a complete state of delirium. I learned a lot about my spirit and core through this process. The most fucked up part is that a lot of the lessons I have learned have already been discussed by others like Oprah, or actualized and spiritual groups and I have never heard prior to my own journey. How it is possible to think the same and not even share the physical contact or interaction? Its all there for us to access and gain once we start integrating our core through these spiritual experiences.
Nikola Tesla said that in the universe there is a core, from which we obtain knowledge strength and inspiration and that our brain in only the receiver. Some brains are better than others however the core is out here for us to access anytime.
I think this episode is a way deeper than it appears on the surface.
However I also think we can’t be so selfish to only live in the spiritual and neglect our physical bodies. We need to value, respect, nourish and achieve a state of harmony and being and oneness with the spiritual and physical.