For me it a case of being hit by lightening, or receiving a thunderbolt (refer to The Godfather book). I fell for her HARD. Our friendship lasted about 10 years, first as friends, then as lovers. And then she put me in the friend zone. I'll admit it, accepting friend zone status was tough. She was easily a 9/10. What I didn't realize at the time was that she did not feel the same way about me as I did about her. Being put in the friend zone woke me up. I found her on facebook and she seems to have found happiness. I don't know if that was ever missing from her life. I'm happy for her. But she's now in my past and I don't see any point to contacting her. And she has aged well.
I guess one thing I learned is that no one likes being dumped- especially when it's me. I dumped my next GF , and she didn't like it (quelle surprise). She had One-itis for me.
Then after I became the dumper, I became the dumpee again- but for that last relationship I was just looking for fun and her biological clock was so loud it was audible. She was on the hunt to lock down a man. She invited me have dinner with her family about two months into our relationship. Silly me, I just thought she was being nice. Much later I figured out that she wanted to show off what she had bagged. Later on she told me her family was not impressed with me (under the circumstances I think that was a good thing). Being dumped was painful in the moment, but I recovered quickly. And she was always testing me (calling me cheap, saying I ran like a girl, other stuff I'm sure). This woman was perhaps an 8/10 attractive, and educated. And along with my One-itis chick, it has given me a little bit of understanding of what attractive women must endure. Since the mid 90's I've been married to a woman who respects and takes care of me. And intellectually we are much closer.
Looking back, I would not have been happy with either of the two very attractive women. I was just not happy that they ended things with me, rather than the other way around. Did I say that nobody likes being dumped- especially when it's me?
But enough about me and my One-itis. I want to hear from the rest of you....
I guess one thing I learned is that no one likes being dumped- especially when it's me. I dumped my next GF , and she didn't like it (quelle surprise). She had One-itis for me.
Then after I became the dumper, I became the dumpee again- but for that last relationship I was just looking for fun and her biological clock was so loud it was audible. She was on the hunt to lock down a man. She invited me have dinner with her family about two months into our relationship. Silly me, I just thought she was being nice. Much later I figured out that she wanted to show off what she had bagged. Later on she told me her family was not impressed with me (under the circumstances I think that was a good thing). Being dumped was painful in the moment, but I recovered quickly. And she was always testing me (calling me cheap, saying I ran like a girl, other stuff I'm sure). This woman was perhaps an 8/10 attractive, and educated. And along with my One-itis chick, it has given me a little bit of understanding of what attractive women must endure. Since the mid 90's I've been married to a woman who respects and takes care of me. And intellectually we are much closer.
Looking back, I would not have been happy with either of the two very attractive women. I was just not happy that they ended things with me, rather than the other way around. Did I say that nobody likes being dumped- especially when it's me?
But enough about me and my One-itis. I want to hear from the rest of you....
