Stages of the "hobby"

I am at stage 6. The appeal for me has largely disappeared.
As mentioned I won't stop completely but has diminished significantly. Excellent post

I love this well thought out researched post -thanks OP stage 2 with some repeats based on great connection .

I'm in between stages 4 and 5...

I'm currently in stage 5. Stage 6 doesn't look too far in the horizon.

itd131 said:

If you don't mind me asking, how long have you been seeing your regulars?

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Once I find an SP that I feel a connection with the relationship can last for years. I have been seeing one of them for about fifteen years. The others four to six years. My ATF was Christine from Mississauga. I started seeing her in the 1990's and continued seeing her until she retired in 2015.

Awesome thread, I think I'm different than most in that I will never have a "Stage 4". For me, after hundreds of experiences, there's not a single woman that I have repeated more than a few times with. I've made friends for sure, great ladies who I hang out with from time to time, but no longer as a client. Having a "regular" is like the worst of both worlds...like having an wife who you pay to have sex with.

In my case, I found myself engaged in Stage 1-4 progressively for over 30 years but at present, I feel "stalled" in Stage 5 -6 not knowing what will happen next!:help:

I'm definitely at stage 3.

I've had several duos, a trio, engaged in rough play (Breath play, spanking, hair-pulling) and some light domination with a couple ladies I've been to see.

I'm currently entertaining visiting a couple ladies who have balconies at their incalls that are discreet enough that we could enjoy some time together on it. I've even thought of having a duo on a balcony.

I have to admit I kind of like the thought of putting on a show for anyone who might be watching.

Going to see escorts has certainly made me a lot less vanilla!

Currently between stages 4 and 5, though I was never that into the scene. I have high standards of beauty and not enough women in the biz justify the price or effort. Cumming is like pissing, it's just something that needs to get out of my system. It's frankly a burden to get on the internet, see who's out there, wonder what they really look like and act like, and if it's gonna be worth the time and money. I used to see a different girl every time as a rule, but eventually settled on a regular as it's less hassle and you know what to expect. Now that the regular has gone independent (Stella Summers if you're wondering) I have to find someone else as I'm not paying double the price for the same product. Back to trolling the message board with my check list, looking for someone young with a nice face (8+), hourglass figure and down to earth personality.

not sure what stage i just reached, but am kind of worried. Been seeing my regular milf for 2 years now and loving it. However, we have chatted about her circumstances more than mine and she is not a happy camper. we started out great today,but during a break in the proceedings she started telling me how depressed she gets in her situation, which is, agreed, depressing. Single mom, no money. high rent. no fun. I am aware her life is no picnic. She was crying. Kind of a mood killer. as in, don't know if we can go back to the mindless sexual relationship which I was in it for.Certainly killed the rest of the session. I am always the best i can be to her. Clean. respectful. quite generous. and genuinely kind. She is exactly what I want sexually. however, we have kind of crossed a line. But now that she has shared how sad she is, it is hard for me to kind of get back on track with the joyous lust, when she has kind of dropped her guard and bared her soul. fuck

I've yet to go to a strip club.

I can't imagine why I would now when you can find stripper SPs.

For all intents and purposes, I’m in stage 6. But just as your “career” starts in stages, so too has my retirement. First, I quit SPs. Then, I quit massage. Then, I quit getting dances at SCs. And finally, I quit altogether.

I’ve got my 2 month “chip” from the last stage. The others have been for longer.

I may return at some point. I haven’t ruled it out. I still think about it. But for various reasons, I expect I’ll never get back to the “peak” of my career.

luvyeah said:

I've yet to go to a strip club.

I can't imagine why I would now when you can find stripper SPs.

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This. Even if you're not seeking intercourse or oral, wouldn't it be better to be in bed with an SP for a half-hour at $160 and feeling her breasts and exploring her body as opposed to probably spending the same amount at a strip club for a cover charge, a few overpriced drinks and some unfulfilling air dances?
At least that's what it seems like to me.

luvyeah said:

I've yet to go to a strip club.

I can't imagine why I would now when you can find stripper SPs.

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Hm. But there's more to it than that. The problem I've had with sp's is that you don't know what they look like til you see them. And that doesn't always work out. At a strip club, you can see who you're attracted to, how she moves, how she talks to you. And if the vibe is right, you start to crave the girl. Maybe feel some impatience, some jealousy. I don't get that feeling for sp's. It's sort of like, girl opens door, I'm either kind of turned on or not, and it all happens too fast given the circumstances. Problem at a strip club is you can't just proposition a stripper, or at least I've never tried. It seems like a hassle. But if that was normal - actually, how they have it in Europe kinda works. You go to a brothel, you talk to a girl, and you can arrange for her to meet you at your hotel for more privacy. Over here there seems to be an either/or scenario when it comes to strip clubs and sp's.

Stage 1 and 2 were the first 2 years of hobbying..... I've been stuck on stages 3 and 4 for 20 years now and I never get bored.....

I never get tired of a new woman. Sure, there are good and bad experiences, but the good onces make up for the rest....

Also, I only hobby abroad ( I live in the Netherlands). Toronto is my favourite spot for so many reasons (Tifereth is one of them....Skye Nyx also...... ), but after hobbying for so many years and thinking I've seen it all, I was in Prague last week. Booked an independent as I have done tons of times, but the creature that was standing at the front of the hotel was nothing short of an angel! She was 100% my type, sweet as honey and her body was absolutely flawless..... I fell in love right on the spot. Allready craving to go back in a few months!

And that is exactly the reason why I'm stuck in 3 and 4. I still get suprised, even after all these years! I don't wánt to go to 5!

luvyeah said:

I've yet to go to a strip club.

I can't imagine why I would now when you can find stripper SPs.

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It's a lot more expensive but it's worth it once or twice. I enjoyed my past experience because it was a guys night out and we just drank like usual but it was fun just chatting up the strippers who would come over and chat.

Also it was fun just feeling up the girls during the dance and they would also give an over the pants hj. After a few of those you get worked up. Then a real sexy one offered extras and I took her up on it. Altogether spent 600 bucks that night but it was fun. I wouldnt do it again anytime soon.

I still see her I don’t think her rates are that high

I feel like a kid in a candy store where most candies are expired, and I can only know which ones are fresh after paying and tasting them.