Thanks for the reply Jess. I understand your cautionary tale this being the internet and all... All I can say is I tell you the truth absolute. I`ve posted the 2 Bipolar topic threads out of frustration, the near impossibility of finding a "normal" woman. There may be a proportional number of women feeling the same regarding men. Obviously there is a problem on both sides of the fence. There is a problem with so many people trying to overcome despair and hopelessness by drinking and drugging, lying, manipulating and exploiting. Is all that symptomatic of something much worse?.. yeah, probably. I continue to shun all of that and practice radical acceptance, not take their behavior personally and keep moving forward. Be well everybody.
Dating a woman with Bipolar Disorder... The End.
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You've gotta ask yourself why you attract women that aren't "normal." It could be something simple like where you hang out and find women. It doesn't even have to be something negative about yourself, it could be that you give off a vibe that lets bad women know they can take advantage of you, aka "nice guy syndrome."I've posted the 2 Bipolar topic threads out of frustration, the near impossibility of finding a "normal" woman.
Now, I do think modern radical feminism has greatly reduced the level of dedication and hard work a lot of women put into relationships. I briefly dated a girl in college who would regularly profess that relationships, and especially marriages, are nothing more than a tool used by men to control women. This was reflected in her attitude towards the relationship, which was one of selfishness.
This attitude is disastrous if you find someone who combines it with victimhood culture. These are people who see symptoms of their mental illnesses not as things that need to be worked on but as things that shield them from responsibility.
Particularly with BPD, one thing you need to understand is that people who suffer from it deal with intense fears of abandonment and will go to great lengths to avoid it. This is dangerous as some consider - based on their interactions with others - their BPD itself to be a mechanism for keeping people close and sympathetic to them. So they may act up at times (or continually refer to themselves as "crazy") as a means of reminding people around them that they're not well and deserve sympathy.
All this said, though there are normal women out there, by the very definition of the word. You just have to look in the right places and change yourself so you attract better quality people.
Well said.. all smart, valid points. I believe my geographical area doesn`t help matters at all. Central Ontario .. Kawartha Lakes is severely economically depressed. That circumstance is a breeding ground for parasitic behavior, I know over a dozen women here, ages 45 to 75 that are in huge financial trouble, little savings, no company pensions, own nothing and have zero plans for the future. Just like in the movie Casino...I`m like that Japanese businessman( a whale ), the Casino wants to bang out of $$millions.You've gotta ask yourself why you attract women that aren't "normal." It could be something simple like where you hang out and find women. It doesn't even have to be something negative about yourself, it could be that you give off a vibe that lets bad women know they can take advantage of you, aka "nice guy syndrome."
Now, I do think modern radical feminism has greatly reduced the level of dedication and hard work a lot of women put into relationships. I briefly dated a girl in college who would regularly profess that relationships, and especially marriages, are nothing more than a tool used by men to control women. This was reflected in her attitude towards the relationship, which was one of selfishness.
This attitude is disastrous if you find someone who combines it with victimhood culture. These are people who see symptoms of their mental illnesses not as things that need to be worked on but as things that shield them from responsibility.
Particularly with BPD, one thing you need to understand is that people who suffer from it deal with intense fears of abandonment and will go to great lengths to avoid it. This is dangerous as some consider - based on their interactions with others - their BPD itself to be a mechanism for keeping people close and sympathetic to them. So they may act up at times (or continually refer to themselves as "crazy") as a means of reminding people around them that they're not well and deserve sympathy.
All this said, though there are normal women out there, by the very definition of the word. You just have to look in the right places and change yourself so you attract better quality people.
