Great posts so far.
A few tips to have an enjoyable time at a SC:
1) Treat everyone with a high level of respect. It is so rare in SCs, you will be greatly appreciated for it. Display common decency which can be interpreted through how you dress, smell, communicate, and interact with everyone in the establishment. If you are looking like you just came off an oil field, you're doing it wrong.
2) Do not think you're "better" because you're a customer. Everyone can sense it, and it will effect your experience. Just be normal.
3) The dancers aren't into you which at the end of the day doesn't matter because there is a middle ground where good conversations and times can be had. Don't go into a SC thinking you'll leave with a girlfriend - won't happen.
4) Have control over your reality - be aware of all elements in the club and how that may effect your experience. Do not let your emotions, views, drinking habits effect your behaviour to the point it gets you into trouble. For example: you are in a conversation with a dancer and you feel adamant about your position. In the real world, you may aggressively argue for your position, but for the sake of the flow of the conversation, concede and go onto the next topic.
5) Understand there is a flow to conversations in a club. Realize when a dancer is signaling to you they don't want to talk about a particular topic and pivot from it.
6) Beware that there are scams in the club - do not reward scammers. Take note, don't cause a scene, and don't reward it in the future.
7) Don't evade the comfort zone of the dancer in the back. Comfort zones are established either verbally from the dancer (ask), or through your experience with the dancer over time. Don't assume all dancers have the same comfort zones.
8) Be upfront about your intentions when a dancer approaches your table. Don't start talking to them if you won't be taking them to the back. Or communicate that you are 1) waiting for someone else 2) just having a drink before leaving. If they choose to stay at your table, than at least your intentions have been transparent and you have not mislead them.
9) Dancers enjoy compliments, be perceptive and considerate - perhaps they have done their hair or worn something specifically because they know that you enjoy that.
10) A more general principle: I don't believe in Karma in the real world as much as I do in a SC. Your actions have reactions, and they are quite immediate. The more good you put into the environment, the more likely you will receive a good experience. Lastly, as RD has mentioned, have realistic expectations on your overall experience.