Helping them by increasing their anxiety in the short term is flawed. Hope you don't catch someone having a real bad day already. Tread lightly.
Totally...but it should also be noted that their "bad day" could be absolutely insignificant in the grand scheme of things if they end up in physical harm or stalked/harrassed due to privacy exposure.
If they're out in their personal life about their SP work then any warning might seem creepy, but no harm done.
If they're not out, it SHOULD serve as a reminder that, unless something changes, they ARE exposed. Seems particularly selfish to say nothing (...but again, I've been wrong before when it comes to issues regarding the fairer/more intelligent sex before).
All this being said...I'm not on tinder, IG, snapchat, facebook, bumble etc...There's a negligible chance of me coming up upon a profile of an SP like I did in the past. I don't look for connections and I won't go looking for connections. My points here are purely to highlight MY OPINION that WE HOBBYISTS have a responsibility to act respectfully to help keep our brilliant SPs/MAs from unwanted attention or harm(....not unlike we would with literally anyone else we care about in our lives.)
Now there is a class act!
I did almost see you when you were an SP, but we couldn't get the timing right, and every time I see your pics (cuz you are so very hot), I do kick myself for having missed the opportunity, but now it's due to your very intelligent, well grounded responses that I regret never having had the opportunity.
I, as I"m sure everyone else out here is, am very glad that you have found a place in your mind that suits you and a demeanor that leads you to the good things in your life!
well said Kitty...i am sorry you had to go through all this. Some people are just born to be assholes. I am glad you managed through it, you're a tuff little cookie, it takes a lot sometimes to paddle through these pitfalls so kudos and way to go girl..No this is all mine, I was an SP for three years and had my own infall location. I had people show up with NO appointment or when i was "on vacation" they would text me saying they saw mw walking my dogs so they know im not really gone. I retired for that reason, I didn't feel safe in my own home or city.
I came back to CMJ as a MA for safety reasons. Yes I could make 3times as much being indi again but I do not trust people anymore.
I love my job and the amazing people I meet but there are bad eggs out there! I have a family and when people yell kitten and come over to say "hello" It takes everything not to punch them in the face lol I changed my hair recently for set reason, I went to a more normal colour to be spotted out less. People recognize me on tinder, poe, facebook, hell even instagram. We are an age of social media there is nothing I can do about it. I show my face for a very good reason ; I was outed 3 years ago on terb as a "fake profile" due to my PERSONAL instagram account with thousands of followers. Well low and behold it was me that was offering services, the person apologized and took down the post but it took off like wild fire and my face was EVERYWHERE. Ive had people try and extort money from me and threaten to show my identity. SO i said screw it and showed my face, I have for 3 years now. I was with someone for three years as I was a SP so it never effected my dating life lol Now being a single lady it has changed things. Many people know me as Sammy (samantha, sammie..) Smith know I had a huge change in my life over a year ago. I require privacy now more then ever for personal reasons. I will not how ever change how I market myself for a couple dick heads that don't know what is socially acceptable.
I love my job, and the amazing people I work with and have seen. I have been in the industry for 4 years and don't plan on stopping soon. I have adapted, dating is hard anyways... so who knows maybe I'll find "the one" at the club in a session
I have expired many highs and lows in the industry, I do not plan on quitting anytime soon but WILL NOT be returning as a SP ever again.
I love everyone who stands up for me and others girls, thank you all for your support and love <3
If i could kiss you all I would xoxox
I used to feel the exact same way as you on this, or at least very similar. I would feel that helping / saving was always the right path to take as long as my intentions are good. You are willingly sacrificing a positive future relationship with meeting the MA in doing so. I think you're undervaluing the real harm that contacting them about this causes some MA's (I can't speak for them, but in my experience with this it was never positively received).
I'll stop reiterating this now, but I believe the consensus is that MA's DON'T want to know you found them on social media, regardless of your view that's it's only to help and inform. It does inflict immediate pain to each one you contact. I wish you'd rethink your opinions or at least reconsider changing your actions taken on this, but you'll do as you please. Letting each MA you find know you found them is unnecessarily harmful and ruins their day I'd guess. Maybe it carries over to the experience with everyone she meets for the remainder of that day or week, thinking "is this the guy who knows my real life information?". I'm definitely just hypothesizing for sure here but there could be a ripple effect as well.
What I meant previously by saying "I hope you don't catch someone already having a real bad day" was to say that your message to them might push her over the edge, you cannot know where they are at mentally at the time. Some guys would just do this to shift the balance of power with the MA and potentially make the MA feel obligated to do something they don't want to continue to protect their privacy. As awful as that might seem, blackmail happens.
I don't think you are attempting anything nefariously based on what you've said previously above and that your intentions are well guided and commendable, but the MA would have no idea what your actual intentions could be. This is not an accusation, but the reality of the potential anxiety they experience based on your actions. Anxiety is a real SOB to manage and get under control for some and would guess this would be even worse for a young MA dealing with it while feeling out the industry.
From the other thread, Kitten_CMJ asked for people to NOT tell her they found her on social media.
I know you feel it's worth it to take action, but give it some thought is all. You may think everyone should get the flu shot because it helps the entire community, but it doesn't give you the right to go around inoculating others saying "It's just a small prick, you'll thank me later, maybe".Kitten_CMJ said:
Sometimes acting responsibly and or unselfishly means to simply respect another's wishes regardless of your opinion or intent. #respect
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Thanks Kitten for your response. I appreciate you taking your time to put out your thoughts on the matter. You are respectful person (You have every right not to be). It's takes a lot of courage to speak up and I commend you on how you handled yourself.No this is all mine, I was an SP for three years and had my own infall location. I had people show up with NO appointment or when i was "on vacation" they would text me saying they saw mw walking my dogs so they know im not really gone. I retired for that reason, I didn't feel safe in my own home or city.
I came back to CMJ as a MA for safety reasons. Yes I could make 3times as much being indi again but I do not trust people anymore.
I love my job and the amazing people I meet but there are bad eggs out there! I have a family and when people yell kitten and come over to say "hello" It takes everything not to punch them in the face lol I changed my hair recently for set reason, I went to a more normal colour to be spotted out less. People recognize me on tinder, poe, facebook, hell even instagram. We are an age of social media there is nothing I can do about it. I show my face for a very good reason ; I was outed 3 years ago on terb as a "fake profile" due to my PERSONAL instagram account with thousands of followers. Well low and behold it was me that was offering services, the person apologized and took down the post but it took off like wild fire and my face was EVERYWHERE. Ive had people try and extort money from me and threaten to show my identity. SO i said screw it and showed my face, I have for 3 years now. I was with someone for three years as I was a SP so it never effected my dating life lol Now being a single lady it has changed things. Many people know me as Sammy (samantha, sammie..) Smith know I had a huge change in my life over a year ago. I require privacy now more then ever for personal reasons. I will not how ever change how I market myself for a couple dick heads that don't know what is socially acceptable.
I love my job, and the amazing people I work with and have seen. I have been in the industry for 4 years and don't plan on stopping soon. I have adapted, dating is hard anyways... so who knows maybe I'll find "the one" at the club in a session
I have expired many highs and lows in the industry, I do not plan on quitting anytime soon but WILL NOT be returning as a SP ever again.
I love everyone who stands up for me and others girls, thank you all for your support and love <3
If i could kiss you all I would xoxox
