When accidents happen....

I haven't seen this discussed yet and I think it's worth bringing up.

Today I went to see my regular and at the end of the session she happened to smash her finger hard on the head board. It wasn't broken as I found out later but it easily could have been. I felt pretty useless, I've done it before too and I know it hurts like a bitch but not much you can do. I offered what help I could or what she would accept and (like I would have done too) she turned most of it down to take care of her self. I got myself ready to leave, she knew she needed to go get it looked at so she was getting ready to go too. Again a few more offers to do something to help her were turned down so I made my way out.

I didn't play that very well at all. Due to my profession I've had a lot of first aid training and I know people who are hurt pretty bad will play it down and act like nothing is wrong, for what ever reason that's human nature. Also I've been injured a lot so I know exactly what that's like, and I know it's the seemingly unassuming injury can cause a lot of problems. After having many dozens of stitches over the years and an accident so bad I needed reconstructive surgery, the only thing I ever passed out over was a stupid little cut on my finger that didn't even hurt. It can happen to anyone. What I did wrong was I left her to drive herself to the doctors. Sure it's just a finger and obviously not life threatening but it's a lot of pain in a sensitive spot that she could have passed out from en route or even just been distracted by it enough to cause an accident. 100% it would have been inconvenient and maybe pretty awkward too for us both but I should have driven her there or at least stuck with her until she was there. I know I should have known better.

So to the point; shit happens. Have you thought about how to deal with it when it does? I'm sure it's way north of 99% of the time nothing happens, but what if it does? I am trained and somewhat experienced and I dropped the ball on this. Just something to think about...

Goodoer said:

I think you handled it correctly as the injury was not serious AND she waived off your help a few times. You have to respect her requirement for discretion.

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You're right I can't do anything if she doesn't want the help. It wasn't a serious injury but sometimes you don't have a much warning if you're going to faint or go into shock. If that happened while she was driving it could have made a minor situation into a very dangerous one. It all worked out but it got me thinking about it. If not me then getting her to call a friend to take her would have been another solution. FWIW I don't know if she drove herself or not, it's just a recent incident that I'm using as an example for the sake of this conversation. I can't really preach much either because if it was me I'm sure I would have insisted on driving myself.

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One time at Flirt MP I was having fun with this latina MPA and she was chewing gum throughout the session. It didn't interfere in the session and felt like a nice GFE...however near the end of the session we were joking around and she laughed and I guess swallowed her gum and started choking on it...I was like omfgawd what do i do what that fuck is happening...I tried padding on her back but then she was like I am okay I am okay and starts chocking again and going in and out of choking on gum and then being fine..I am standing there naked and it was the most awkward moment i experienced in the MP and she didn't want me to get help nor did she want me to do much to help. I was thinking when do run out of that room to get help...luckily she got the gum dislodged after a few minutes of fighting with it...damn that was close and looked kind of serious at times . Glad everything was okay near the end. Fuck me but I could have been like a naked chicken frantically running around that MP and trying to get some help.

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Not picking on you at all, just using this as an example too. Not much you can do if she doesn't want help (legally you can't touch her if she says no) but you were right to stay with her, choking victims like to sneak away and lock themselves in bathrooms to be found way too late. As long as shes hacking and gagging on the gum she's not choking and let her try and work it out on her own. If it got lodged in there and she went completely silent then now it's an emergency and she's choking. You have about 30 seconds before she hits the floor and about 5 minutes before permanent brain damage sets in. You'd need to do the Heimlich immediately, hard enough to crack ribs if you have to. If you didn't get it out and she passed out and you started CPR right away you could maybe extend that time out to about 10 minutes. Once she passes out you are in the clear legally to help her even if she told you no before. Running around trying to find help would take a lot of time off the clock she doesn't have for any chance of surviving. You continuing CPR and yelling for help and getting someone else to call 911 would be much better. Even if you got it out right away with the Heimlich still call 911, the trauma from choking could cause her trachea to swell shut and then you're done, or well she's done. Scary to think about but you were very nearly in that situation.