How can some of you men continue to cheat behind your wives?

I wanted to follow this thread... I hope Larastrong comes back for some solid discussion.

My kids have nothing to do with me visiting SPs. The lack of sex and caring from my SO combined with fruitless discussions left me in quite the 'spot'. Seeing other civilians and/or married women added a huge level of stress, so I moved on to SPs. I either keep having some stress-relieving fun every now and then, or I blow up my family and my kids' loving perspective of their mother as a 'hero'. As far as I'm concerned, my SO's lack of effort is her failure (as I've made the efforts to resolve). An ugly parting and the financial costs that'll be slapped against me are a concern as well.

Condoms are my safety. It is not like I've joined a drug cartel.

I bear my own Cross and Jesus has yet rescue me. I take that as a sign that he approves of my direction.

Lara, a couple of questions if I may...rates and restrictions?

what makes YOU think anyone on this board actually cares who is married and who is not? Sex is an act between two consenting adults. If they both consent to it I guess they have no problem with it right. Posting this is an escort review board is not the way to go about it if you are seeking compassion.

Larastrong said:

Seriously, I feel disgusted about how some of you men go around seeking escorts here than to come home like nothing happened. Do you not care about your safety and the safety of your wife and children? If you don't like your spouse, leave them and stop continuing the deceit!

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You are a scorned, judgmental, assuming, nasty person, coming here to cuss out men because why???? You can't bitch at your ex husband anymore? Really?

Do you know how many men here are single? Do you know how many couples are here? The answer would be no.

Not to mention those who truly loved their wives, are now widowed and see escorts because they can't imagine loving another woman.

Why bother coming to a community just to make trouble, make sweeping judgments, etc?

Should we assume you didn't put out for your ex and that is why he left? Or assume that you let yourself go after saying "I do" so he had to go elsewhere just to get it up again?

Maybe you should think before you post or before you come to a community just to cut up its member.

I will say one thing though, if you can't have respect for anyone here, be prepared to have that disrespect dished back out. I certainly wouldn't be nice anymore.

Besides, there are different type of relationships.

So you never know, some might be swinger couples and they accept having different sexual partners with the knowledge of it happening.

I have even met SPs who told me they have a boyfriend, who knows this part of her work and they are in a great relationship.

Jessica Rain said:

I will say one thing though, if you can't have respect for anyone here, be prepared to have that disrespect dished back out. I certainly wouldn't be nice anymore.

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Pot - kettle - black

PS - ALWAYS unavailable to Jessica. How do I change my footnote here, lol. Meh... At least I was able to turn off the attached photos. #troll

Ali: you took the words out of my mouth... excellent response!!!
Lara: Every situation is different, some of these men also perhaps have ill wives at home that are Unable to provide this sexual necessity that all humans have... or perhaps even themselves have health problems in which they need to seek out help from providers perhaps ti actually get something going at home... there is some stories out there..., and don't kid yourself.., many women cheat too... maybe they don't pay for a service, but actually to be honest I think for many of these "bad married man cheating on their wives" is better to pay for a service and not get emotionally involved and keeping their family together..., because indeed they do love their wives but unfortunately something at some points goes missing...

Alison_xox said:

Dear Larastrong,
Here's the response from a provider.
You came to discover this board and I understand that it could be a bit overwhelming for a "outsider" to realize that so many guys that are hanging here are indeed probably married, but in my years in the industry I had the honour of meeting some wonderful men that are deeply in love with their wives. Yes they do come see me sometimes, but it doesn't mean that they are not happy at home or are unsatisfied by their wives. Sometimes the routine , the responsibilities, work and so many factors are making the sex life a little less "a priority".. Some couple have been together for a very long time and the intensity is not as strong as it was.. Sex is sex ..It is physical , animal , instinctive. It is a natural need. So is the need of feminine attention , the need of affection.. With their wives they are making love, they share their life, their plans for their future , they built together as a team and most of those guys don't want to lose their wives, split their family, ruin what they built only for a matter of sexual needs.

I do get what you mean and I do understand that it could be painful for someone to discover that you have been cheated on , BUT what if you could chose between having your man seeing a provider and never know. Keeping your family together , your kids happy , everything you built and living your entire life knowing that your man loves you very much , he spoils you like a princess and he never leaves you ?
or
Him being honest about an occasional sexual need that doesn't mean anything. Leaving you, destroying what you both built ( including the family) ?

Love and Sex are two very different things.

This is my opinion , but some of you might not share it.

Ali

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Larastrong - you sound like you have nice feet. PM me if you want to hang out.

Alison_xox said:

Dear Larastrong,
Here's the response from a provider.
You came to discover this board and I understand that it could be a bit overwhelming for a "outsider" to realize that so many guys that are hanging here are indeed probably married, but in my years in the industry I had the honour of meeting some wonderful men that are deeply in love with their wives. Yes they do come see me sometimes, but it doesn't mean that they are not happy at home or are unsatisfied by their wives. Sometimes the routine , the responsibilities, work and so many factors are making the sex life a little less "a priority".. Some couple have been together for a very long time and the intensity is not as strong as it was.. Sex is sex ..It is physical , animal , instinctive. It is a natural need. So is the need of feminine attention , the need of affection.. With their wives they are making love, they share their life, their plans for their future , they built together as a team and most of those guys don't want to lose their wives, split their family, ruin what they built only for a matter of sexual needs.

I do get what you mean and I do understand that it could be painful for someone to discover that you have been cheated on , BUT what if you could chose between having your man seeing a provider and never know. Keeping your family together , your kids happy , everything you built and living your entire life knowing that your man loves you very much , he spoils you like a princess and he never leaves you ?
or
Him being honest about an occasional sexual need that doesn't mean anything. Leaving you, destroying what you both built ( including the family) ?

Love and Sex are two very different things.

This is my opinion , but some of you might not share it.

Ali

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Damn Alison, you read my mind!!! its kinda my situation... I don't feel adnormal anymore. Thx!

Larastrong said:

Seriously, I feel disgusted about how some of you men go around seeking escorts here than to come home like nothing happened. Do you not care about your safety and the safety of your wife and children? If you don't like your spouse, leave them and stop continuing the deceit!

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Hi Lara and welcome to Terb.
Yes, I used to cheat, but finally had to end the marriage when she became extremely nasty. Long story, but now single again and seeing escorts regularly has been not only the best sex on my life but also the best time of my life. Kids are all grown and moved away. Freedom to choose my own lifestyle has been liberating.
You too, also have the freedom to choose your own lifestyle.
I support sex workers.
I don’t criticize anyone else’s choices. Whether they want to be attached or not, we all have a right to make our own choices.
If a man chooses to ‘cheat’, he accepts responsibility for the consequences if found out. Sometimes that risk is part of the thrill. Whatever it is, we’re here to support each other, not criticize each other.
Supporting and caring for each other is what makes up a community.
Being able to see a situation from both sides and make our own life choices, is what makes us grown-ups.
IMHO

Wouaw... someone had her illusions destroyed...
Lara, are you for real?

beneath69 said:

Damn Alison, you read my mind!!! its kinda my situation... I don't feel adnormal anymore. Thx!

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I am glad that my response made you feel better sweetheart.

Kisses
Ali

Dougisaslug said:

Pot - kettle - black

PS - ALWAYS unavailable to Jessica. How do I change my footnote here, lol. Meh... At least I was able to turn off the attached photos. #troll

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Hahahha. Your a funny little troll. Love how you sign off your posts tho.

PS - I changed my signature and removed my own pics due to my not taking on new clients for an even longer period of time.

So you didn't do shit, turn off anything or meh - even write a good "put down" post you little liar you. But whatev. Glad to know people I don't know and and don't care about, have so many feelings about me.

Moving on now .... LMAO

Lara, I'm willing to bet the full price of an hour with THEREDMILF (amazing lady) that you: a) have a television in your bedroom (unlikely to be found in the boudoir of any of the classy ladies reviewed on this forum, but now a standard dick-shriveling appliance for most wives) and; b) have never paused in the middle of a BBBJ to hand your husband a cocktail. Only problem is how to prove the bet....unless you care to help out in this regard.

Reality is not a t.v. show...it's life...one of the SPs I see has been providing a therapeutic service (as many as 3 times weekly) to a war vet who suffers from PTSD. Yes, she gets paid, but I suspect this is a kindness you would be unwilling to render.

Allison , nailed it ,, as she has many men ,lol

Larastrong ,, men only seek what they can not get at home ,, I bet you a lot of women know their husband is doing this and are relieved they get left alone in bed .

It is not all black and white .

Nesbot said:

Larastrong - you sound like you have nice feet. PM me if you want to hang out.

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I’m available this afternoon if you change your mind Lara.

Lara sweetie, do you need to get laid? I'm sure lots of guys on here will help you out.

Interesting conversation and input from everyone.

Lara's viewpoint reflects someone who has had her trust broken, and her belief in the truth of fidelity - shattered.
Nobody who has a S.O. (expects) that the S.O. will seek comforts elsewhere, and when it happens, and it is (unexpected) - what you see is the reaction that Lara has exemplified here.
Her shock and disgust at facing the reality of human nature is pretty normal - as a first reaction.
The truth is that men and women are still human, and humans have different needs.

At the end of the day, Alison's commentary is quite true.
Love does not equal Sex. They can be combined, but they exist separately of each other.

The other truth (that most have come to realize over time) is:
It is a better situation where the S.O. seeks comfort from a SP - as this is a transaction, and not a new relationship.
It is a worse situation where the S.O. seeks comfort from another "person", as a secondary "relationship", where emotions, loyalties, thoughts, feelings, and time - now compete with the original "relationship".
That extra "relationship" tends to destroy the primary one.

The bottom line is that an external "relationship" is a whole mess of potential drama that will divert energy and attention (away) from the primary relationship.
A periodic visit to a SP allows comfort to be provided, filling whatever void exists, allowing that S.O. to continue in the primary relationship - not harming that environment of family, home, etc, etc....

I have, at one time, actually had (3 relationships) simultaneously.
It became so time consuming and stressful, as every person has basic needs for attention and love, plus what to do with birthdays, holidays, etc between the 3 of them.
One person can not realistically divide themselves enough to appease that many (actual) relationships.
I'm just glad I made it out, alive !

Good discussion, though.

I hope that Lara finds a way to move on, and find someone (or something) new that can allow her to grow past the negativity of her past relationship.

Jessica Rain said:

You are a scorned, judgmental, assuming, nasty person, coming here to cuss out men because why???? You can't bitch at your ex husband anymore? Really?

Do you know how many men here are single? Do you know how many couples are here? The answer would be no.

Not to mention those who truly loved their wives, are now widowed and see escorts because they can't imagine loving another woman.

Why bother coming to a community just to make trouble, make sweeping judgments, etc?

Should we assume you didn't put out for your ex and that is why he left? Or assume that you let yourself go after saying "I do" so he had to go elsewhere just to get it up again?

Maybe you should think before you post or before you come to a community just to cut up its member.

I will say one thing though, if you can't have respect for anyone here, be prepared to have that disrespect dished back out. I certainly wouldn't be nice anymore.

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haha, not pulling any punches are we

Larastrong said:

Sorry I don't have that

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Many here are not attached Lara.

BTW, seeing escorts can be safer than you think. The risk of disease by critics of the hobby is usually exaggerated.

Reasons for cheating are varied and can be complex.

The good thing with escorts is no strings attached, and only serves as an outlet. Many escorts can be credited for saving marriages so to speak.