Dear Larastrong,
Here's the response from a provider.
You came to discover this board and I understand that it could be a bit overwhelming for a "outsider" to realize that so many guys that are hanging here are indeed probably married, but in my years in the industry I had the honour of meeting some wonderful men that are deeply in love with their wives. Yes they do come see me sometimes, but it doesn't mean that they are not happy at home or are unsatisfied by their wives. Sometimes the routine , the responsibilities, work and so many factors are making the sex life a little less "a priority".. Some couple have been together for a very long time and the intensity is not as strong as it was.. Sex is sex ..It is physical , animal , instinctive. It is a natural need. So is the need of feminine attention , the need of affection.. With their wives they are making love, they share their life, their plans for their future , they built together as a team and most of those guys don't want to lose their wives, split their family, ruin what they built only for a matter of sexual needs.
I do get what you mean and I do understand that it could be painful for someone to discover that you have been cheated on , BUT what if you could chose between having your man seeing a provider and never know. Keeping your family together , your kids happy , everything you built and living your entire life knowing that your man loves you very much , he spoils you like a princess and he never leaves you ?
or
Him being honest about an occasional sexual need that doesn't mean anything. Leaving you, destroying what you both built ( including the family) ?
Love and Sex are two very different things.
This is my opinion , but some of you might not share it.
Ali