Ottawa wife with lots of questions

How’s this for a first post. We’re relatively new to this pastime. I’m definitely the more enthusiastic half, which means I do most of the “research”

First question. Is there is any tried & true things we should be looking for in a ad that will net the most legit ones?

We’ve had mostly great experiences. But, for example, 613-462-8239 (Selena) was not just a now show she just led us on all night with texts saying she was almost there. And wasn’t.

Any tips? I only watch. We both like not too young (+24’ish), real, big boobs, low key, vanilla

Thank you

Another question. This is probably wishful thinking...any clubs/specific dancers that will get a bit handsy in private (over or under) while I watch? Again, just looking for subtle and low key... you may sense a theme here

randall_stevens said:

CMJ have ladies that are couple friendly.

I just hope your not thinking of going to a strip club, that would probably be a waste of time and money

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Not really thinking seriously... just wishful thinking that I could see a dancer put her hand down my husband’s pants...lol

Blackpanther said:

Maybe you should go see Désirée? Apparently she's great with couples. She requires prepay deposit though. She pulled that bullshit on me and I never bothered seeing her. So if you don't mind prepay etransfer than she's a good bet... According to the rave reviews.

https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?598379-D%E9sir%E9e-(L%E9a)


https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?598603-D%E9sir%E9e-4056-(previously-L%E9a)

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Crazy. Her ad *just popped up on BP. I’ll have a look

Poolasaurus said:

Desiree is very pretty and couples friendly, but god help you if you need to cancel.

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LOL! Too funny. I just did that. Well, not really. We had just been texting but had to change plans for tonight. I asked her if I could keep her number for another time. She was cool. She asked for a pic and if she call. Both no problem. I have to assume someone is likely legit if *they’re asking for some background.

thumper18474 said:

Oh.... well....since you put it that way

Makes perfect sense

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thank you! Xo

whiteman said:

You've never participated, Hermione?

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Many times. My overriding fantasy is watching. There are some weird cheating parts to my stories but that’s not integral. Because I love participating so much I’ve spent a lot of time trying to riddle out why this more of a turn on. Who knows. Interestingly enough it’s not that simple. Of course I love watching people fuck but this level of arousal...only watching my husband fuck. How weird and vanilla is that lol

whiteman said:

Well, you're certainly a lot different from most of our wives.

No reason to psychoanalyze yourself for why you like this fetish: you like what you like, and that's all there is to it!

May I ask how old you and your husband are (approximately, if you like), and how long you've been married? Was this something that was always there in your marriage or something that developed eventually?

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Both early 40’s, together 10 years. It was definitely an evolution. Most couples talk about the fantasy or possible reality of threesomes, right? Nothing about that ever seemed remotely over the top. So we did several times and it was great. But it was like a switch went off for me. I’m sure if I didn’t trust him or I wasn’t confident in how he felt about me then my brain wouldn’t have gone there but because I was so secure in the relationship that I was able to go there. It’s been pretty fucking liberating. To go from being so self conscious to so confident that I enjoy watching him fuck other women so much has been enlightening lol

Cowboy Kenny said:

Who have you met with, and what did you like about those experiences? Were are you looking fo your playmates ? There's a lot of great sps in this city who can and do cater to your specific needs but don't always promote said services openly

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I feel bad I can’t recall the names of a few but all decent experiences. Then there’s Nikki Diamond. We’re seeing quite a lot of her lately and it’s been great.

Cowboy Kenny said:

Yeah she's a cutie, and a personal fav and perfect for what you're looking for at this stage in your exploration. You askes earlier about clubs, have you looled into Obsession or Club Debotchery ?

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Now is where I’ll have to admit to *my own accentric interests lol. yes, we’ve considered checking Obsession out. But I’ve cultivated this fantasy down to such finite details that I don’t how it would work in a club. My husband needs some level of comfort and a connection before can fully open up with someone. So, in my head a club works wonderfully. We meet, mingle, dance, drink, etc., he hits it off and goes off with her a bit before I wander over to see what’s going on. Meeting Nikki D has been great for that reason. She’s fun and easy to get along with. He’s more than comfortable with her now...which is exactly what I’m looking for

That’s actually pretty genius lol

Cowboy Kenny said:

Why not take Nikki with you to Obsession, this way you can still enjoy the environment and experience with a familiar and accommodating participant I'vedone something similar on a few occasions with others, it's fun and comfortable !

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