I'm bored... Please Help.

Go volunteer at sick childrens hospital

See a shrink. "Boredom", procrastinating and aimlessness are usually signs of underlying mental issues.

Jessica Rain said:

My shrink told me to find a hobby so I came here. Now you are sending me back. No wonder I am bored. I am dancing in circles. LOL.

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Get a second opinion.

Jessica Rain said:

My shrink told me to find a hobby so I came here. Now you are sending me back. No wonder I am bored. I am dancing in circles. LOL.

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I get like this too, and I surmise I may have, and you may have, cyclothymic disorder. This is by no means a diagnoses so of course, see a professional. I haven't but I use mental exercises, and exercise to deal with my "down" swings.

In a nutshell, cyclothymic disorder is when you alternate between hypo-manic periods and very shallow depressions, with periods of normal functioning. The frequency with which you experience down and upswings varies among individuals.

The feeling of constant boredom, loss of interest in previously interesting activities, a decreased ability or inability to derive pleasure from once pleasurable things, are all signs of depression. The fact you still function suggests it is not a major depressive episode and because it does not negatively impact your day to day functioning in social, professional, and personal life areas, it does not really warrant a diagnosis or treatment, if you can manage the periods.

Do you ever go through periods of the complete opposite? Where it feels like you have boundless energy and are interested in every and anything that comes your way, smashing one goal after the next with seemingly no effort? If so, those would be your hypo-manic periods.

I find I go through this sexually as well. Sometimes I have little interest and desire but can perform if stimulated. Other times I'm a horny teen that craves it 5+ times a day.

Because of the above, I would want a second opinion - if I felt a diagnosis and treatment was necessary - but I don't. That's just me though.

To address the main point of your OP - yes, exercise can do wonders to snap you out of this rut. Weight lifting would be my suggestion. Free weights like the guy in your latest story haha. Set a goal to be able to say, squat your body weight in 1 years time, or something along those lines. Buy a dress or piece of lingerie a few sizes too small and put it somewhere you will see it every day, then work toward fitting in that and save it for a special client/friend. Most of all, fake it til you make it. Changing your behaviour, even if your mind isn't quite in it, can jump start your mind causing it to follow suit.

Mentally, try to realize that these feelings are just that, feelings. It's a somewhat weird and difficult concept to wrap one's head around, but thoughts, emotions, they're not really real, and hold no real significance in the real world, unless we impart significance onto them. Sam Harris covers this concept well in his book "Waking Up" where he dives into the psychology and neuropsychology of mindfulness meditation. In the book he tells of his days travelling and studying in the East, taking months-long hiatuses from Western life to experience solitude and meditative training, in addition to experimenting with ecstasy lol. Great book from a great author imho. If you can learn to control, and/or dismiss your thoughts, you'd be surprised what you can accomplish in terms of alleviating yourself of anxieties and counterproductive mind states. I could talk about this all day but I'll just end here lol.

jcpro said:

"Boredom", procrastinating and aimlessness are usually signs of underlying mental issues.

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They certainly can be, I believe if prolonged and not merely transient.

Jessica Rain said:

My shrink told me to find a hobby

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It's good that you've spoken to someone about.

Take a trip to a truly amazing place, for example Kenya. Look at the African Savannah and you will not be bored for a while.

Sounds like you have a case of S.A.D. I get this quite a bit this time of the year. Maybe get a hold of a friend and take a walk around the city. Go to Yorkville or queen west, go to a cafe have some lunch. Its going to be a beautiful day why not take advantage of it

You should try learning another language, I find it very fun and it can make travelling to places where that is the language a lot more enjoyable.

Jessica Rain said:

Let's take a more light hearted approach here please as that is my intent. Thanks.

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Simple, arrange a gang bang. If you enjoy women too make it an orgy instead.

S.A.D can be a shitshow, go for a long walk before your morning coffee. No sense in becoming the Chairman of the Bored.

Jessica Rain said:

I am going to re-clarify again for myself. Yes I am woman I am allowed to not make sense. It is coded in our DNA. Lol.

I am looking for a challenage. That is where my boredom lies. I go out, I have friends, I am not lonely or feel alone. I am active, happy and content with life in genrral. This is really going to sound bad but total first world problem here.

I am just looking for a challenage. So that is usually learning a new skill or trade or expanding my mind. For a trip I would want to explore some unknown never seen before place. Some cave or ruin or something. Not tourist type. That is boring to me. I could go to an AI anywhere, see a safari, take a cruise but meh. Sign me up for a trip to Mars. That would be an awesome adventure. LOL.

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How about backpacking in Afghanistan? Not touristy, plenty of ruins, potential for excitement and, most likely, you'll be the hottest lady there. Just getting there should be quite a trip.

travel - so much to see on this planet

I think this is quite common after Christmas and during winter.
Depression, which I myself have experienced.
In the UK we now have a Minister to address Loneliness of the population.
We live our lives fast paced,with emphasis on material things satisfying us and fellow humans supporting us.
We never take time to be alone, look after ourselves because we fear loneliness.
IT does not have to be.
One does not have to be spiritual, though it helps and adds another dimension, knowing that although we are by ourselves, we are not alone.
Only a suggestion, but it also gives us time to talk to God.
In these types of times though I was gonna suggest hobbies.
hobbies don't need to be expensive either.
Taking pics of nature for example.
the therapy is in getting out and away from your normal life and all it's stresses and learning to appreciate and marvel the simpler, free things in life.
I don't think there is any one thing as we are all different.
you've made progress in identifying there is problem and reached out for answers, suggestions etc.
Best of Luck

Jessica Rain said:

My shrink told me to find a hobby so I came here. Now you are sending me back. No wonder I am bored. I am dancing in circles. LOL.

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Your first mistake was seeing a shrink.

Jessica Rain said:

I am going to re-clarify again for myself. Yes I am woman I am allowed to not make sense. It is coded in our DNA. Lol.

I am looking for a challenage. That is where my boredom lies. I go out, I have friends, I am not lonely or feel alone. I am active, happy and content with life in genrral. This is really going to sound bad but total first world problem here.

I am just looking for a challenage. So that is usually learning a new skill or trade or expanding my mind. For a trip I would want to explore some unknown never seen before place. Some cave or ruin or something. Not tourist type. That is boring to me. I could go to an AI anywhere, see a safari, take a cruise but meh. Sign me up for a trip to Mars. That would be an awesome adventure. LOL.

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Become a scuba diver! Lots of great diver development destinations, many with unpatronizing traveller scenes. Try diving and hate it, you’re in a great part of the world to explore.

I became a divemaster during a 2-month period of downtime and never looked back. It was something new, a challenge and a complete life reset, thanks to the place I lived.

If you want a party, you can find that. If you want something really healthy and spiritual, you can find that.

Since that first experience, I started travelling differently. I go to a cool place and live for a couple months, and do short trips from there. I love to immerse myself in a new scene, and moving hostel to hotel every day (or week) never allowed me to really “live” anywhere I was visiting. Having something to do, whether it be human or conservation outreach or “working” in the dive industry, it’s a great way to meet new friends really quickly, and you’re never bored.