Has it ever happened to you? The SP does everything right but you fail to rise to the occasion. Happened to me once last year, once this year and once the year before that. Freaks me out. I wonder if things are ever going to work again. I used to get hard at the smallest hint of sex. Failure was not a possibility. Not happy about this at all.
Failure to rise to the occasion
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+1.. But good effort/attitude from the lady is rewarded with repeat business. Conversely, had a few ladies with blah attitude that managed to get the job done but I didn't repeat because of the limited connection. People (especially some ladies) should realize that for some it's not just the physical, it's also the mental and emotional. I have too much self-respect to repeat with someone who's really attractive but who doesn't treat a nice fellow properly.luckily no. well maybe on a second SOG after an amazing first even then can usually get it u.. I have rarely had issues finishing. If I'm rushed or stressed, no props getting hard, but getting to the finish line can be a challenge.
obvious question, but how old are you? anyway. sounds like grounds for a refund.Has it ever happened to you? The SP does everything right but you fail to rise to the occasion. Happened to me once last year, once this year and once the year before that. Freaks me out. I wonder if things are ever going to work again. I used to get hard at the smallest hint of sex. Failure was not a possibility. Not happy about this at all.
My experiences had nothing to do with SPs. But after my dad died back 15 years ago or so, I was quite down / blue for many many months. I won't say depressed, because although people said I was depressed, I chose to make the distinction between sorrow and depression. The 2 are not the same. But at the time, I lost interest in sex and nothing gave me any pleasure or joy. Or even contentment for that matter. I felt bad all over. I would think that I wanted to get laid, or that I should get laid, but there was not that usual body cramp that I would always get in anticipation of sex.. I would get semi wood, maybe 30% or 40% of what was really needed and I would try to jam it in. I definitely could not maintain wood. It was all very disconcerting to me, someone who had always been very driven and LOVED sex.
I think that you need to be hitting on all 8 cylinders in life in order to really get into sex. You can't phone it in. When you're on, and you're healthy, and you're content, then your dick will do what it's supposed to do with gusto. It's like your cock is some sort of litmus test with respect to everything else that is happening around you and with you. When everything is good, you're cock is good. Throw a wrench into life's machine and the first thing that jams up is your cock.
I think that you need to be hitting on all 8 cylinders in life in order to really get into sex. You can't phone it in. When you're on, and you're healthy, and you're content, then your dick will do what it's supposed to do with gusto. It's like your cock is some sort of litmus test with respect to everything else that is happening around you and with you. When everything is good, you're cock is good. Throw a wrench into life's machine and the first thing that jams up is your cock.
Certainly some truth to that.** When everything is good, you're cock is good. Throw a wrench into life's machine and the first thing that jams up is your cock.
Just get viagara or cilias !Has it ever happened to you? The SP does everything right but you fail to rise to the occasion. Happened to me once last year, once this year and once the year before that. Freaks me out. I wonder if things are ever going to work again. I used to get hard at the smallest hint of sex. Failure was not a possibility. Not happy about this at all.
I think the concern has more to do with being able to achieve that which used to come (no pun intended) naturally, sans medication.Just get viagara or cilias !
Given the global market size for ED drugs is around 4bil not including counterfeits/herbal remedies, you are fortunate to only experience it once a year. In fact, it is more common to have mild ED past 50 than not (https://www.uwhealth.org/urology/erectile-dysfunction-ed/20537), as reflected in the current poll results (assuming the average Terb member is 40-50).Has it ever happened to you? The SP does everything right but you fail to rise to the occasion. Happened to me once last year, once this year and once the year before that. Freaks me out. I wonder if things are ever going to work again. I used to get hard at the smallest hint of sex. Failure was not a possibility. Not happy about this at all.
That said, I always sail with a full mast, my destination true.
The thing is I have no clue what works and what doesn't. I've had a few girls kiss me and the little guy responded. I've had a few girls smile and massage and sometimes their particular stroke technique doesn't do it. With some girls 69 is the key. But it's never consistent. What Doesn't work is crappy attitude and non-engagement. A pretty girl who's not into it is a big downer.
Thanks for the feedback. Did a little reading today. There is obviously a psychological component to failure and that has been brought out in some of the posts. I don't believe that is a primary factor for me.
I am on some medication that can have erectile dysfunction as a side effect. I think that is a contributing factor. Fortunately it is of a class of meds with many formulations and some of them don't have that side effect so I will have to discuss this with my doctor (in fact, one of the options enhances erections - I will ask him if that's an option for me). Also, there is no question that lifestyle is now having an impact. I should lose some weight, I should drink less and I should sleep better. I am not at any extremes. Not extremely overweight, not a heavy drinker and not heavily sleep deprived. But taken together, improvements in this should improve the strength of my erection.
It is easy to know that lifestyle changes are needed but not so easy to make them. However, a declining sex life should provide the necessary motivation. I am 60 years old and that undoubtedly is a factor but there isn't much I can do about that.
On the psychological front, I do believe that my porn habits do have an effect too. Sometimes an SP is providing incredible service and I am just not fully appreciating it sexually because of the porn exposure.
Things are still good - once a year failure is not the end of sex - but it does freak me out - coupled with the inability to have 2 SOGs - they are the canary in the coal mine - and I believe I should start dealing with it now.
I am on some medication that can have erectile dysfunction as a side effect. I think that is a contributing factor. Fortunately it is of a class of meds with many formulations and some of them don't have that side effect so I will have to discuss this with my doctor (in fact, one of the options enhances erections - I will ask him if that's an option for me). Also, there is no question that lifestyle is now having an impact. I should lose some weight, I should drink less and I should sleep better. I am not at any extremes. Not extremely overweight, not a heavy drinker and not heavily sleep deprived. But taken together, improvements in this should improve the strength of my erection.
It is easy to know that lifestyle changes are needed but not so easy to make them. However, a declining sex life should provide the necessary motivation. I am 60 years old and that undoubtedly is a factor but there isn't much I can do about that.
On the psychological front, I do believe that my porn habits do have an effect too. Sometimes an SP is providing incredible service and I am just not fully appreciating it sexually because of the porn exposure.
Things are still good - once a year failure is not the end of sex - but it does freak me out - coupled with the inability to have 2 SOGs - they are the canary in the coal mine - and I believe I should start dealing with it now.
I don't have any problems getting hard but it is a challenge after the first shot on goal so I've never had a successful second shot. I've had problems the odd time reaching the finish line and a couple times failed to do so entirely. I think this is all in my head though and is kind of a vicious circle. I get stressed (sometimes even before the appointment starts) that I might not be able to finish and that makes it more difficult. The longer it takes the more worried I get I'm not going to finish and I think past a certain point it makes it nearly impossible, which is also compounded by the ticking clock on my session time.
I've read this is true and it makes sense... same goes for too much masturbation. You get used to so much stimulation that the lady can't realistically recreate.On the psychological front, I do believe that my porn habits do have an effect too. Sometimes an SP is providing incredible service and I am just not fully appreciating it sexually because of the porn exposure.
If the stimulus is there and the physiology up to par then no need for meds. However time eventually changes things as the biological clock never stops ticking. I would never use meds. to fuck a pro, in fact maybe the pros should be subsidizing those guys who are on erectile dysfunction prescription meds as these providers would get a return on their investments. Do any sex providers supply or finance Viagra or Cialis ?
You are kidding, right? If not.................I would never use meds. to fuck a pro, in fact maybe the pros should be subsidizing those guys who are on erectile dysfunction prescription meds as these providers would get a return on their investments. Do any sex providers supply or finance Viagra or Cialis ?
I normally don’t have any problem getting an erection. However, if the sp takes too long to put the cover on and slip me inside her, the passion can be lost and sometimes it doesn’t come back for the remainder of the session. But it also depends on the chemistry I have with the sp and her technique. I’ve found that some sps have what it takes to bring it back quite quickly whereas a few (three) in the past were unable to arouse or stimulate me so I left feeling “unsatisfied”. If that happens, I normally do not return. One sp was particularly attractive so I visited her again thinking I must have had a bad day (as per the ops post), however, it happened again with the next visit so I never saw her again. Happy to say that it’s not been an issue the past couple of years.
My doctor said it is more mental than anything if all the other boxes check, like health, attraction, etc.
If you are still getting erections during sleep than the plumbing works and it’s just in your head. Likely some anxiety and stress.
If you are still getting erections during sleep than the plumbing works and it’s just in your head. Likely some anxiety and stress.
