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Terb handle: Yes or No?

essguy_

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Increasingly notice posts where members have said that they disclose their Terb handle (routinely). I've never done this, even once in all my years on this board. It's just never come up naturally in conversation. And part of me feels it's kind of like putting an unfair pressure on the provider (i.e. prospect of a bad review). Going the other way - is it supposed to create a positive impression? Personally, when I want to impress, I put on my best Telly Savalas voice and tell them I'm a member of the "Player's Club".... who loves ya, baby?

If you mention your Terb handle - why do you do it? If you don't, is there a reason?
 

hairyfucker

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I have never discussed or mentioned TERB with any provider. Never felt the need or desire and she has never asked. If she did I would not expect it to put pressure on her either.

The girls are not uninformed and they know there are review sites and the very high probability of their client being a member. There are over 155,000 users here and if you aggregate to other review sites I would guess that well over 90% of customers have used a review site.
 

explorerzip

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Many indy's are asking for your terb handle as a reference. Some have Terb preferred rates. Many ladies I've seen asked me where I found them and I tell them on terb of course. It is interesting to discuss the board with them especially when you mention specific people. I don't get what the big deal about revealing your handle unless you put personal info or use your real email address in the profile.
 
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Samranchoi

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Based upon personal experience I would say no but if you need to disclose to an SP you really want to see than yes.
 

Jiffypop69

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Only if it's necessary to book the date, or maybe receive a discount through an agency. Having said that, meeting SP's at Xmas parties etc... I've given my "handle" in those situations as well.
Personally, I don't see the point most times. Is rather she not know, and not have a preconception about "hobbiests" (hate that word).
 

rhuarc29

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I've actually been asked by quite a few SPs if I'm on the boards. I always categorically deny that I am. But then, I'm big on privacy.
 

TFZL1

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Many indy's are asking for your terb handle as a reference. Some have Terb preferred rates. Many ladies I've seen asked me where I found them and I tell them on terb of course. It is interesting to discuss the board with them especially when you mention specific people. I don't get what the big deal about revealing your handle unless you put personal info or use your real email address in the profile.
Same here, nothing to hide. Some Lady’s have asked, or actually, if they advertise here, I let them know I found them on here. Same with twitter handle, I let her know it was a specific post or pic that got me interested.
 

managee

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^all this :thumb:

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I once used my handle to PM a provider regarding a service question, and another time reached out to a spa on a customer service issue. In retrospect both were mistakes, as I without exception keep my handle and/or ‘membership’ to myself in sessions.

Personally, I think it’s a mistake to share TERB info if you’re planning to write a review based on your experience. Fight Club rules, for sure. Any semblance of authenticity is drained from the exchange as soon as you shift the power dynamics in a session by threatening/mentioning TERB.

The season 19 South Park episode You’re Not Yelping did a great job on this topic.

Is the session now about the review she’s hoping for? Or are you getting the same session that the next guy who doesn’t mention TERB gets? Can you really be (brutally) honest after the exchange if she knows your handle and is expecting something positive than she necessarily deserves from you out of that session she just provided?

The fact that women, spas and agencies have the ability to respond here to public slander and dishonesty in reviews acts as a good enough (for me) deterrent against dishonesty in negative reviews. Our only protection against shills is the arms-length buffer we create and maintain for ourselves between our anonymous handle and the in-room relationships we have with providers.

Whether you’re her pimp or her TERB friend, if your out-of-session relationship makes you want to go soft on something that you know would benefit the community to know, please do me a favour and don’t post at all. Also, you’re a shill even if you don’t know it yet.

I have nothing against a relationship that develops naturally or because you use TERB like some industry worker fanboy messaging board (hint hint), but you can’t really review with integrity if you know you’ve crossed that line that allowed you to maintain objectivity towards your subject.

There’s not much need for the TERB provider-reviewer relationship in the era of Twitter. PM if you need to settle a dispute privately, but otherwise this is a place for critique, not friendship. Save the love for Twitter. Hopefully the thread hit counts will remind providers, agencies and spas of the value in advertising here.

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On a different note, it seems like such an absolute bottom-of-barrel of lame thing to rely on as a conversation piece. Is there nothing better for you two to talk about when you’re naked other than work?

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And finally, does anyone who says “no” to revealing your membership here while in the real world make exceptions for discounted service at agencies, spas and with independents? What about if you need a reference?

Asking for a friend ;)
 

massman

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I have given it out as a form of verification (better than giving your personal cell or work email!!). I think by my history here prospective SPs can see that (generally) I've been a decent, respectful, level headed guy, who occasionally reviews, but always tries to be fair. I've been lucky that I've really never had to provide a negative review of a lady who I've given my terb handle to. Tho I've become very selective in who I see lately, doing careful research beforehand.

If it's not for verification purposes I tend not to.
 

explorerzip

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Maybe it's me, but I can't say that I've felt pressured to write a review whether or not I've given my handle. Then again, I tend to stick with well-known indys or agencies girls that already have good reviews. So I don't find usually find it necessary to heap on additional praise if all I have to say is basically the same as everyone else.
 

legendspirit

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Coincidentally, I was just asked for my handle to be used as a reference. How I handle myself online is similar to how I handle myself in person so nothing wrong with that.
 

Jeffrey93

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In Durham, my "name" goes a long way with the SP's.

In fact, many fellow terbites out here reference me (see my Sig), and some have impersonated me.
 

jcpro

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TERB? What's that? I think I'm going to check it out.
 

Aardvark154

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Essguy, agree with what you wrote. I likewise, see dropping a TERB or MERB handle as being a not quite so veiled hint that I expect preferential treatment or I'l post negative comments. Hence I've never even mentioned either board unless asked, and that has happened perhaps twice.
 

DelicateFlow

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I've never mentioned it, but I guess if asked I wouldn't really care. I bet it helps, and I would imagine heavy posters really try hard to volunteer/advertise the fact. Which makes their reviews kind of pointless. lol
 

nntsci

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Increasingly notice posts where members have said that they disclose their Terb handle (routinely). I've never done this, even once in all my years on this board. It's just never come up naturally in conversation. And part of me feels it's kind of like putting an unfair pressure on the provider (i.e. prospect of a bad review). Going the other way - is it supposed to create a positive impression? Personally, when I want to impress, I put on my best Telly Savalas voice and tell them I'm a member of the "Player's Club".... who loves ya, baby?

If you mention your Terb handle - why do you do it? If you don't, is there a reason?
I disclosed my handle to three ladies who I arranged to see using a board... in particular after initial contact on the board, when we moved to text messaging to make arrangements, I needed to let the gal know it was the same person.... but that's only in the circumstances that we had already made contact and I wanted her to know it was the same person (e.g., "Hi, this is nntsci, from TERB, we discuss seeing each other next..." or something like that. In all 3 cases my contacts with them on the review site (actually it wasn't Terb) were apparently sufficient as references.
 

essguy_

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Lots of reasonable explanations - Eg - I forgot about the reference requests by independents. Going the other way, the other trend is for agencies giving a discount if you tell them you're a TERB member and give them your handle. I get the marketing reasons to do this (links to advertising, building loyalty, etc) but the downside to this (and the cynic in me) sees this as a potential form of subtle control. It could also lead to "you scratch my back and I'll scratch yours" situations which can taint objectivity. Anyway, my personal choice (so far) is to not use my handle outside of this board (never say "never" though..)
 
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