^all this :thumb:
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I once used my handle to PM a provider regarding a service question, and another time reached out to a spa on a customer service issue. In retrospect both were mistakes, as I without exception keep my handle and/or ‘membership’ to myself in sessions.
Personally, I think it’s a mistake to share TERB info if you’re planning to write a review based on your experience. Fight Club rules, for sure. Any semblance of authenticity is drained from the exchange as soon as you shift the power dynamics in a session by threatening/mentioning TERB.
The season 19 South Park episode You’re Not Yelping did a great job on this topic.
Is the session now about the review she’s hoping for? Or are you getting the same session that the next guy who doesn’t mention TERB gets? Can you really be (brutally) honest after the exchange if she knows your handle and is expecting something positive than she necessarily deserves from you out of that session she just provided?
The fact that women, spas and agencies have the ability to respond here to public slander and dishonesty in reviews acts as a good enough (for me) deterrent against dishonesty in negative reviews. Our only protection against shills is the arms-length buffer we create and maintain for ourselves between our anonymous handle and the in-room relationships we have with providers.
Whether you’re her pimp or her TERB friend, if your out-of-session relationship makes you want to go soft on something that you know would benefit the community to know, please do me a favour and don’t post at all. Also, you’re a shill even if you don’t know it yet.
I have nothing against a relationship that develops naturally or because you use TERB like some industry worker fanboy messaging board (hint hint), but you can’t really review with integrity if you know you’ve crossed that line that allowed you to maintain objectivity towards your subject.
There’s not much need for the TERB provider-reviewer relationship in the era of Twitter. PM if you need to settle a dispute privately, but otherwise this is a place for critique, not friendship. Save the love for Twitter. Hopefully the thread hit counts will remind providers, agencies and spas of the value in advertising here.
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On a different note, it seems like such an absolute bottom-of-barrel of lame thing to rely on as a conversation piece. Is there nothing better for you two to talk about when you’re naked other than work?
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And finally, does anyone who says “no” to revealing your membership here while in the real world make exceptions for discounted service at agencies, spas and with independents? What about if you need a reference?
Asking for a friend