I never disclose my terb-name. "Johnhenrygalt" is a fictitious character and exists only to role-play on terb and merb. When I see escorts I use a different role-playing persona.
I disagree, I think it keeps you honest.nothing fucks up your will and ability to post an honest review as remembering that you have stupidly disclosed your handle
+1.Same here, nothing to hide. Some Lady’s have asked, or actually, if they advertise here, I let them know I found them on here. Same with twitter handle, I let her know it was a specific post or pic that got me interested.
I think most ladies that see me would state in person I'm totally different (in a good way).Coincidentally, I was just asked for my handle to be used as a reference. How I handle myself online is similar to how I handle myself in person so nothing wrong with that.
Some guys do this to "push" for a better session. That is wrong. Conversely, a lady who provides better service for some versus others is just as wrong. I'm not talking ymmv but the same good treatment should be given to all clients.Essguy, agree with what you wrote. I likewise, see dropping a TERB or MERB handle as being a not quite so veiled hint that I expect preferential treatment or I'l post negative comments. Hence I've never even mentioned either board unless asked, and that has happened perhaps twice.
If I have an issue with an SP and I want to see her again, I either let it pass or I can take it up with her privately. If I choose to air a grievance publicly, I'm accountable for my comments/criticism. Face it, you wouldn't say some things in person because the reaction would be bad. Probably a sign that you shouldn't publish it for others to read.Some clients like to be able to write anonymous reviews without the SP knowing his Terb handle. I don't know why that is hard for some people to understand.
Sometimes they fear that if they say anything even remotely negative about the SP, she will refuse to see him again.
Yes, some SP's make their case, some break it by how they conduct themselves.Sex workers are far more likely to be victims of sexual violence.
When you have a board whose membership will make threads and posts denouncing rape victims, I can't say I blame them.
By that same token, there are a few SPs I would consider to be a solid avoid based on their behavior on this and other boards.
Hardly in the lounge. And let's be frank, most ladies I see have been contacted via Terb. What's the big deal in bringing it up? Can't bring it up with friends, family and SO's. If I'm running a poll, I go direct to the source.Still no post to this thread by the guy(s) (cough cough) who without shame, mention that they bring up TERB as part of sessions pretty regularly.
Or those that seem to use messaging here to develop or foster provider/client relationships.
A huge issue nowadays is people hiding behind anonymity. It gives people the opportunity to say whatever with little accountability. If I write a review, I'm honest and accountable.nothing fucks up your will and ability to post an honest review as remembering that you have stupidly disclosed your handle
Well said.I feel like if you told me you found me on terb and read my reviews but refuse to give a handle you have something to hide and I won't book you. If you're that protective over you're anonymous persona I automatically assume you're a) trolling b)someone I refuse to see c) post extremely negative things and should get a new hobby (no pun intended)
With certainty, there are going to be exceptions to public airing of a grievance in disputes where the larger TERB community need not weigh in on, but if something stunk about a session, keeping that out of a positive review harms, not helps this community.If I have an issue with an SP and I want to see her again, I either let it pass or I can take it up with her privately. If I choose to air a grievance publicly, I'm accountable for my comments/criticism. Face it, you wouldn't say some things in person because the reaction would be bad. Probably a sign that you shouldn't publish it for others to read.
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A huge issue nowadays is people hiding behind anonymity. It gives people the opportunity to say whatever with little accountability. If I write a review, I'm honest and accountable.
If you are honest and fair, you shouldn't have a problem. If you are deceitful, you deserve your just desserts. But it really comes down to how you treat a lady and respect her. If I see a lady and I write something bad, why am I seeing her again? Aren't i treating her as a sex object?
........or those with "an axe to grind"/ulterior motives against the SP or the person that was quoted.That “Reply with Quote” icon beckons white knights...
No doubt. But luckily... “Reply with Quote.”........or those with "an axe to grind"/ulterior motives against the SP or the person that was quoted.
When I say deceit I mean lies, omissions, etcWith certainty, there are going to be exceptions to public airing of a grievance in disputes where the larger TERB community need not weigh in on, but if something stunk about a session, keeping that out of a positive review harms, not helps this community.
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You mention deceit later in your post. And clearly honesty is important to you.
But unfortunately, not every session is a good one, as you know all too well. Dealing with all grievances privately would to me, be deceitful, at-least in the spirit of a TERB review. The bad reviews are just as important as the good ones. Speaking for myself, I appreciate the first negative review more than I appreciate the second positive review.
Can you truly be objective as a reviewer without the veil of anonymity? On the other hand, do you actually expect a session to be unaffected by the Hawthorne effect (or whatever) if TERB is brought up at any point?
Mentioning she had cigarettes on her breath, or too many tattoos, or too much stubble, or too much (or not enough) makeup, or she wasn’t ‘clean’ enough, or the incall had shit parking, or there was a stain on the bed or a condom in the toilet, or [insert reason] helps the Board, which is where I would hope our allegiances lie.
Nobody likes to hear their favourite provider being trashed, particularly when you see it, for whatever reason as untrue, but that’s the beauty of a Board like this. That “Reply with Quote” icon beckons white knights...
I agree with everything but as mentioned, A game should be given to every client. I'm not talking ymmv stuff, but a professional should be consistent. It's wrong if a lady provides lfk to all but makes an exception for a reviewer - either all get lfk or all dfk (assuming same level of comfort and cleanliness). Like any business, treat customers the same. And the way I see it, it makes the most sense to treat EVERY client as if they are a reviewer.I give the option of using a review board handle has part of my screening. I prefer when men do that because I like to read about them. What they like, don't like, see if we are compatible. I really really hate having my time wasted. I hate having encounters that are not enjoyable and I do everything in my power to ensure that all my dates are with like minded people so that I can avoid unpleasant romps.
I will decide whether I want to see a client based on his postings, but if I am only seeing maybe 3-4 guys a month, I want them to be as enjoyable as possible. This really is more like a sideline paid dating type thing for me. I am not available to everyone. Also, most of my clients are gentlemen that come to my private home. I am not opening my doors or pussy to a guy that I can't stand to type with in a random thread on TERB. If we can't get past the typing, we are not getting into bed together.
I do understand the desire of being anonymous, and that is why I offer different options for screening. However, having a TERB handle and provider references get you vetted faster then say using employment verification as your screening choice. Why? Because reading what you write personally is important.
As far as reviews are concerned, I do know that some men will say right away that the girls knows he is on TERB. I think that is important and can go along way in you personally weighing the validity of the review.
So I think if being used properly, disclosing your handle can be a good thing, but like all things in life, some people will use and abuse it. And that is on both sides of the coin. Men will use their TERB handle as leverage for extra time or services. Girls, if they know, can make sure to give their "A" game. All of this true, but we have to navigate that like anything else in life.
I feel that inevitably, we’ll need to agree to disagree on this one.When I say deceit I mean lies, omissions, etc
Some guys will write "lady didn't kiss" but conveniently don't mention they showed up with bad breath and sores.
If I see a lady I'm going to write a fair and unbiased review, mostly factual and relevant information. If I experienced something minor and fixable, and I want to see her again, the better course of action is for me to provide private constructive criticism, not publicly denounce her. If you had an amazing time but lady had cigarette breath, why not tell her during, after, or privately message her/agency? Hopefully she will remedy. Now if you see her again and she has cigarette breath, let people know because she has an ongoing issue.
That's why I think many people choose to either remain anonymous or even say they aren't on Terb - they want the luxury of being able to point a finger but not have it pointed back. They want the luxury of going back to a provider after saying something bad about her in an anonymous review. To me that's cowardly.
Hawthorne effect - may apply, may not. I think a professional should provide A level service to every client. It seems less professional to offer different service levels to clients based solely on whether they review or not.
I get the feeling some guys think they are like food critics. Sorry but I don't think anyone is being paid to go see a lady to find out what her average service is like to report on Terb. I actually think I can be completely objective as a reviewer - I tell it like it is. I tell ladies to read the reviews I write.
"Too many tats" - according to whom? People should just say "girl has lots/some/a couple/no tats". It's all the information we need.
Please understand I'm not saying people shouldn't write bad things - they can and should but be fair and objective
What I don't like are negative opinions about looks. Not only are they hurtful, they are the reviewers opinion - let each person come to their own conclusion.
We aren't disagreeing - we are arguing two different thingsI feel that inevitably, we’ll need to agree to disagree on this one.
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I’m a bit confused as to whether you feel omission is deceit.
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This entire board runs on subjective criticism. A provider who chooses to continue smoking, despite your (hypothetical) private constructive criticism puts a future anti-smoker client’s (good) session in jeopardy. No different for a few vs. some vs. too many tattoos... It’s very post-truth.
Tell us how YOU feel, not what you think a provider wants you to tell the Board.
Maybe I’m wrong, but from what I understand, the purpose of a review isn’t to increase sales... leave that for the “reviews” that get posted to provider or agency-run websites that many of us take/read with a justifiable grain of salt.
The purpose of a review is to help members make an informed decision knowing full-well the limitations of a discretion-oriented profile.
Every aspect of a review is subjective. Assuming that ANY of your tastes are universal is juvenile.
At our very best, we can hope to be objective. But I imagine few of us believe any review, except our own, is truly objective. It’s a journey....not a destination.
Some use numbers, some don’t - either way, it doesn’t matter. Acronyms, comparatives, opinions, and approximate descriptions help. Leaving something out that you privately criticized, most of the time, does not.
Please don’t post deceitful reviews.
Agree. Every review has to be taken with a grain of salt because they are subjective based upon the reviewers tastes. That's why every first meeting is still a roll of the dice because ultimately your own tastes are unique. Eventually you will find reviewers who have a similar taste and style to your own and then you can weight their views a little higher than others. Anyway, I started this thread because I have never been asked if I'm a TERB member during an appointment. It's just never come up in conversation. And since I've never been asked, I never thought to bring it up. I don't go into an appointment with my "essguy_" identity leading the way. I use my real first name and we go from there. If it ever came up, I guess I have nothing to hide - but it has never come up!Every aspect of a review is subjective. Assuming that ANY of your tastes are universal is juvenile.
At our very best, we can hope to be objective. But I imagine few of us believe any review, except our own, is truly objective. It’s a journey....not a destination.
Some use numbers, some don’t - either way, it doesn’t matter. Acronyms, comparatives, opinions, and approximate descriptions help. Leaving something out that you privately criticized, most of the time, does not.
Nobody's directly asked me either. Most ladies have been contacted via Terb or its been included as part of the screening info. I've probably only stated it during an appointment once or twice. Regardless if you have nothing to hide, I don't know why bother with hiding it.Agree. Every review has to be taken with a grain of salt because they are subjective based upon the reviewers tastes. That's why every first meeting is still a roll of the dice because ultimately your own tastes are unique. Eventually you will find reviewers who have a similar taste and style to your own and then you can weight their views a little higher than others. Anyway, I started this thread because I have never been asked if I'm a TERB member during an appointment. It's just never come up in conversation. And since I've never been asked, I never thought to bring it up. I don't go into an appointment with my "essguy_" identity leading the way. I use my real first name and we go from there. If it ever came up, I guess I have nothing to hide - but it has never come up!
I’m not calling you a sap, but it seems like you could really use a girlfriend or something in your life. They’ll wind up costing you just as much per SOG, but you won’t need to be constantly reminded by your brain, or the TERB community that she’s not actually interested in you - physically, emotionally or socially. That’s why you need to pay $$$ to spend any time with her.I take the opportunity to ask personal questions, ask about feelings, etc. IMO there's that certain group of conversation that is small talk and when that's all we discuss it seems less GFE and just FE or AE(acquaintance experience). Call me a sap but I like to feel the lady is interested in me just like I'm interested in her. Some ladies say they feel like the guy doesn't care but it's important that they don't pull the same crap.
All I'm saying is that a complaint many SP's make, either in person or on Terb, is that many or even the majority of customers treat them as sex objects or robots. It's clear from the get go they just want to do the deed, they want to hit we many acronyms as possible and really care nothing for the SP as a human being. Some guys probably think this is ok because that's what they are paying for.I’m not calling you a sap, but it seems like you could really use a girlfriend or something in your life. They’ll wind up costing you just as much per SOG, but you won’t need to be constantly reminded by your brain, or the TERB community that she’s not actually interested in you - physically, emotionally or socially. That’s why you need to pay $$$ to spend any time with her.
I know there’s always an exception, but when she told you that you had the biggest cock she’d ever seen, or you’re the funniest person she’d ever met, or you just gave her the best orgasm of the hour/day/week/month/year/ever or you’re her favourite most sweetest custy she’s ever had, or how much she loves your hair, balls, eyes, tongue or whatever, it’s part of a routine meant to mimic (not replicate) a common (at-least to me) experience. Even if she starts a confession with “I haven’t told any other customer this, but you Blah Blah Blah.” Replication would involve more yelling and less screaming than I’d want in a session.
What the actual fuck would an FE or AE be like?
I mean, I get the cudlding ads in the banner, but if you just want to hang out with women, it feels like there are some pretty obvious, safer and cheaper ways to interact with them. Take a cooking class, get into yoga or get on Bumble. Waaay more fun than this hobby and this place if that’s what you really want out of a session.