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    Chatting with a Dancer - a delicate balance?

    I have noticed that in my experience in SCs, an interesting dilemma. I think we can all agree that chatting and being in company with a dancer prior to the CR, is part of the enjoyment of the SCs. These conversations are flirtatious, however they can also vary to being quite substantive in nature (political, economics, career/family etc).

    In my personal experience, once I begin having these more substantive and I guess, "meaningful" conversations, my enjoyment for the CR with that particular dancer (as a whole) begins to decline. I've narrowed some of the potential causes to 1) seeing the dancer as more of a "friend" 2) beginning to care about the welfare of the dancer. Like I still find the dancer hot, but I can't easily switch my mind from talking deeply about something then completely transition to enjoying them naked on me lol. It's hard to explain but this has happened to me on several occasions.

    Does anyone else share this experience?

    WTS

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    Quite the contrary in my case. I feel knowing the dancers only enhances the CR experience. It becomes a more intimate private dance that is no longer purely physical or mechanical with a robot but rather a more real GFE private dance experience (by GFE I mean only hugs and kisses) with a real person. That said I always respected the boundaries. .

    On another note not related to original thread though conversing and sharing stories about private lives it is very important to respect their private lives and though I may learn a lot about their lives while conversing but never intrude. Dancers are like actresses in the movies. Falling in love with dancers is like falling in love with the actresses in the movies for the role that they are playing. They are entitled to their privates lives while not on working hours as we all do.

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    You might have confused my post in that, I am not referring to "falling in love" but rather, when you show thought, empathize or simply just listening to someone and getting to know them on a personal level. The dynamics of that relationship changes making it more difficult just to view them as sexual beings (as I would if I simply sat down with a dancer and instantly went to a CR).

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    Quote Originally Posted by WillingtoSpend View Post
    I have noticed that in my experience in SCs, an interesting dilemma. I think we can all agree that chatting and being in company with a dancer prior to the CR, is part of the enjoyment of the SCs. These conversations are flirtatious, however they can also vary to being quite substantive in nature (political, economics, career/family etc).

    In my personal experience, once I begin having these more substantive and I guess, "meaningful" conversations, my enjoyment for the CR with that particular dancer (as a whole) begins to decline. I've narrowed some of the potential causes to 1) seeing the dancer as more of a "friend" 2) beginning to care about the welfare of the dancer. Like I still find the dancer hot, but I can't easily switch my mind from talking deeply about something then completely transition to enjoying them naked on me lol. It's hard to explain but this has happened to me on several occasions.

    Does anyone else share this experience?

    WTS
    Have only really chatted in a "personal" way (at least at any length) with one dancer who became an ATF over the years. This did not really affect my approach to the CR experience with her, but I can understand how this could be an issue for some, especially when venturing beyond the 'low-mileage' realm of CR encounters. It is a sort of "delicate balance" in that if one wants to get familiar/friendly with a regular dancer, at least some more "personal" topics are almost unavoidable and if this makes the patron uncomfortable during the CR encounter then a dilemma is created.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WillingtoSpend View Post
    You might have confused my post in that, I am not referring to "falling in love" but rather, when you show thought, empathize or simply just listening to someone and getting to know them on a personal level. The dynamics of that relationship changes making it more difficult just to view them as sexual beings (as I would if I simply sat down with a dancer and instantly went to a CR).
    No no the comment on falling in love was in no way with any reference to your post. It was simply an extended comment. I made that comment because I read someone on another place (not this forum) posting that he was in love with a particular dancer at Fax and I made this actress comment over there and thought of mentioning that here too.

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    ONce spent half an hour talking to a crazily sexy dancer at Fax named Raphael and she was so interesting, funny and smart creative that it only made me much more excited about going to the VIP with her and it was one of the best most creative experiences I've ever had (not talking milage but the whole experience). Too bad she hasn't been there for a couple of years but I'm glad I got to experience her.

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    This happens with MAs too... the more I chat and learn about them, I find that I tend to enter into a zone where sessions can become less intense, physically anyway. But there are other pleasures from this level of interaction too. It depends what you're looking for and what you need; some of these girls are better at reading what type of interaction you need once they get to know you than you may realize yourself. Where this becomes more obvious is after you've spent some time with a girl you know, even if it hasn't been that naughty, and then you spend some time right after with another one who's a lot naughtier, sometimes you feel like there is something missing, even if on the surface you're having a much more erotic time.

    It is nice too when you have girls who retire and let you know you can still e-mail or text them sometimes. Maybe they weren't that naughty in the CR the last time you saw them, but that is its own kind of pleasure.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ElCapitain View Post
    Where this becomes more obvious is after you've spent some time with a girl you know, even if it hasn't been that naughty, and then you spend some time right after with another one who's a lot naughtier, sometimes you feel like there is something missing, even if on the surface you're having a much more erotic time.
    Very good point that resonates with my experience.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WillingtoSpend View Post
    Very good point that resonates with my experience.
    ^This

    For me also, making a connection with a stripper is always nice. I guess I'm sapiosexual. Don't get me wrong, I looove horny and naughty girls, but the best way to turn me on is to make me think, laugh, re-evaluate my opinions, teach me something I didn't know, etc. THEN her body can take over and finish the job her brain started. Basically, if a girl manages to stimulate my mind AND my body, it is ON.

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    these ladies are not sexual beings as you mention it they all have different personalities and reasons for doing what they do. Some could be drugs others could be to get through school, etc etc

    knowing some of the background makes it more enjoyable for me....which is why i tend to prefer MAs.

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    There is a dividing line right at the entrance to the champagne rooms. 2 different environments. We can be buddies in the outer room, but we're lovers once we cross that line. The same on the way back. If you can do those simple mental acrobatics, everything stays cool.

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