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    Quote Originally Posted by funfunfun010101 View Post
    Slurp? if the room comment was for me I am not bi but I don't mind being in a MMF threesome.
    No I think the comment was for me or both. After reviewing over 50 ladies past month alone, then only a crazy mind would think I am bi !!!!. Or more likely someone who purposely intends to insult and offend me because of my supporting comments for WIR.

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    Quote Originally Posted by funfunfun010101 View Post
    I'm sure it won't last but the SA post being deleted made you that mad?
    No I'm not mad at all. I am not upset or outraged nor, as one might have suggested, am I having a tantrum.
    Let me start off with stating that I understand TERB is, "...not a democracy. It's a benevolent dictatorship.", I get that. Also, let me make it clear my intent is not to argue, question or be disrespectful but that I simply don't understand it.

    To the best of my knowledge the very first SA topic thread was posted 07-14-2016, that's 11 months ago. My failure to understand is how Sugar Dating which is a paid type arrangement for spending time with someone, just as with a Dancer and MA or SP, fails to be "...inline with TERB's vision and goals." To quote, "...not taking advantage of naive or vulnerable women who are using these sites or seeking these types of arrangements.", is this perhaps thought to be exclusive to Sugar Dating and not possibly exist in other types of hobbies found on this forum, I don't know their views on this.

    Maybe we are not meant to be given all views for decisions but to simply accept, "...the abruptness of this decision." By no means do they owe us an explanation. I simply fail to understand it that's all, nothing more.

    WIR

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    As much as I am ZERO affected by the removal of the SA stuff, IMO what you wrote makes sense to me.

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    Same here not interested in SA at all but you make a great point and I don't get the logic of the decision that was made either.

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    I am in total agreement. No interest in SA or SD arrangements myself but it sure appears to fit into the niche this board was created for. Btw, is GD91 just trying to stir up shit? Is he one of those???

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    I will attempt to clarify.

    When the SA threads started, I held the same view as WhereIRoam above. "It's paid sex work, plain and simple," I thought. I understood that the main goal for the ladies involved was to provide sexual services for money, and for the men involved to provide compensation for sexual services. Pretty clear, and seemingly in-line with what TERB is about.

    However, on further reflection and after reading the discussion thread, including all views on the matter, my view morphed. While the view above is probably what a majority of people consider these types of relationships to entail, there was a disconcerting contrary view that came to light. That contrary view was, in a nutshell, that not all ladies expected to provide sex for compensation when signing up for these types of relationships. There are ladies who are seeking a more platonic relationship in exchange for compensation. There was also discussion and advice being provided on how to target disadvantaged ladies in order to, basically, get sex for cheap.

    This, in our view, is not cool.

    A few posts were deleted, the warning and urge for respect was posted, but in reality the fundamental aim of SD/SB relationships as they were being shared and discussed on this, a board for reviewing and discussing the sex trade, increasingly made TERB administration uncomfortable.

    To equate SD/SB relationships to other sex work is disingenuous. There is a clear expectation in an escort/client relationship for sexual activity to occur (of course, between consenting adults etc. etc.). Similarly, there is a clear expectation in a MPA/client relationship for some sort of sexual release. And there is a clear expectation in a dancer/client relationship for it to be teasing solely in a sexual manner. That "clear" expectation isn't 100% clear in a SB/SD context.

    So, just as we set boundaries for escorts (no discussion of the street scene or BBFS), and massage and dancers (no discussion of "extras"), TERB has decided that discussion of the Sugar Dating scene is not going to be permitted on this board.

    In no way is this meant to demean or indicate that there is something wrong with those who engage in this type of relationship. Quite the contrary, if it is mutually beneficial, mutually agreed-upon and respectful, more power to all involved. We have simply drawn our line in the sand, and we ask for people to respect this decision.

    Hope this helps.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mod42 View Post
    There was also discussion and advice being provided on how to target disadvantaged ladies in order to, basically, get sex for cheap.

    This, in our view, is not cool.



    To equate SD/SB relationships to other sex work is disingenuous. There is a clear expectation in an escort/client relationship for sexual activity to occur (of course, between consenting adults etc. etc.). Similarly, there is a clear expectation in a MPA/client relationship for some sort of sexual release. And there is a clear expectation in a dancer/client relationship for it to be teasing solely in a sexual manner. That "clear" expectation isn't 100% clear in a SB/SD context.
    I do respect the decision, I simply did not understand the views. My last post nor this post is not to argue or disrespect the decision made about SA, or any decision TERB administration makes for that matter, if perceived this way it is not my intent. SA is a hobby that was being newly discussed on this forum. No, SA is not straight up "pay for sex between two consenting adults", it is a mutual arrangement between two people to spend time together doing whatever activities it may be that they both agree to do, yes, sex being one of those activities that may be agreed upon. This is not intended to sway or disrespect a decision but simply to help clarify.

    Had I previously mentioning that there is a SP in Rockland (not my type) that offers much lower than normal rates and another one in Smithsfalls (who I have seen in the past) who offered rates much lower than the norm, who shared with me she did so because she was well aware that her market was smaller because of her location and that she wished to attract more clients, had I posted a review of her that included her rates would this info have been viewed by TERB administration as me suggesting something about targeting disadvantaged ladies in order to, basically, get sex for cheap? Pardon my ignorance I am a new member so, again, this post is not to be disrespectful of TERB administration's decision on the SA topic but simply for me to be better informed as to the acceptable boundaries in regards to SP information being shared on this forum.

    Sincerely,
    WIR

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    The first thing is to stop equating Sugar Dating to escorting. They are not the same, as you also admit.

    To clarify (again): on TERB, discussion of SPs is okay. Discussion on SB/SD not so much.

    The main difference in your Smiths Falls example, is that the SP willingly set her rates lower given her situation. She was not offered a lower rate based on the advice of someone posting on this board, thereby feeling pressure to take the lower rate because she was desperate. It's a nuanced, but important distinction.

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    I agree that SPs set their own rates, this is a well known fact.
    The post in question on the SA thread that had Ladies chime in was in regards to a SD simply informing that in his experience on SA he had found that SBs living out of town were seeking less of an allowance because of where they lived and was letting other SDs know of this, it was not suggesting SDs try to offer less or lowball them because of their location. I, like most might, find there is a big difference between the two.

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    I'm not going to get into a debate on this. You are minimising what was actually being suggested in the post you're referencing, making it seem more benign than it was.

    Clearly you aren't going to be convinced on this.

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    You're right about convincing.

    Although minimising is not my intent. I believe perception is playing a major roll with this, that is something no one can control about another person.
    I cannot be convinced of something that I don't believe to be true, such could be said for anyone on any subject where perception can vary.

    Thank you for your time. With respect, I will return to my silent and peaceful protest.

    WIR

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    Quote Originally Posted by WhereIRoam View Post

    Thank you for your time. With respect, I will return to my silent and peaceful protest.

    WIR
    I don't want you to go but you can't really call it a "silent" protest if you keep commenting, lol just saying.

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    You're right triplef, perhaps this isn't much of a protest at all.

    I played a few different sports growing up and during those years enjoyed winning a couple of championships and also learned to accept defeat. Perhaps my being a little quiet lately is from my experiences during those times due to something my father use to say to me, "When you win say little. When you lose say less." I've received PMs over the last couple of days, some from longtime members, suggested perhaps how the SA threads may have been complained about to key people as the main use itself and its growing interest from members perhaps posed a threat to some and brings no revenue. Though they agree with me suggested that I, "...just let it go." Waking up this morning I realized I really enjoyed the SA threads and even more enjoy being a SD... I will accept defeat.

    Mod42 I apologize for my questioning your views, sort of speak.
    Fellow SA threads contributors and readers I tried my best but .

    WIR

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    Quote Originally Posted by WhereIRoam View Post
    Mod42 I apologize for my questioning your views, sort of speak.
    WIR
    Sorry but this irks me every time you use the phrase "sort of speak". I believe the saying is "so to speak".

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    Quote Originally Posted by cck View Post
    Sorry but this irks me every time you use the phrase "sort of speak". I believe the saying is "so to speak".
    I stand grammatically corrected.

    Using Google to search "sort of speak" gave me this result:
    Some people will “correct” you by saying it should be pronounced and written “sort of speak.” But neither form is standard. When you use an expression that is not meant entirely literally, or is slang or informal, you may follow it with “so to speak” or “in a manner of speaking.”

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    Quote Originally Posted by cck View Post
    Sorry but this irks me every time you use the phrase "sort of speak". I believe the saying is "so to speak".
    Are you kidding me? Just ignore it. I did.

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