So I see an SP on a regular basis and we get along well. The sex is mind-blowing. We have fun. The conversation flows easily, like two good friends. She talks about her personal life quite freely, not a clock-watcher. All is good. I am 60, she is in her thirties. I am not a hunk or a stud. I am Joe Average and look every one of my sixty years. She is well reviewed and everyone likes her. She says she loves watching the man she has sex with, have sex with other women. She has never been to a swingers club/sex club and wants to go with me (off the clock, no charge). We have never done anything off the clock. No dinners out or anything like that. I am not married. I have never been to a swingers club. I wouldn't want to run into someone I know, but I don't have a lot to lose. What is the downside to this? Any advice on where to go? She said she prefers not going to a club full of young people. And no, I will not reveal who she is. Thanks.
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Here's a recent thread on the topic.
https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?602200-Night-clubs
By the way, I can't really see a downside to the arrangement you're looking at with her.
Good luck, have fun, and let us know how it goes.
https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?602200-Night-clubs
By the way, I can't really see a downside to the arrangement you're looking at with her.
Good luck, have fun, and let us know how it goes.
I have been to a couple. One was amazing and the other time not so much. It is like any place in the sense you need to be a good socializer at meeting strangers and making them comfortable in you presence. You need to assess yourself of these qualities as well as your own attractiveness.
Look for signals she is interested like in any place else and understand the rules of no means no and absolutely no touching without permission. Best place to meet someone is sauna/pool if they have one.
Down side is you do not meet someone or get rejected so go without high expectations to avoid disappointment and report back
Look for signals she is interested like in any place else and understand the rules of no means no and absolutely no touching without permission. Best place to meet someone is sauna/pool if they have one.
Down side is you do not meet someone or get rejected so go without high expectations to avoid disappointment and report back
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@Charlotte Edwards is correct, there is no guarantee that you'll actually get yourself a unicorn at the club, although you might hook up with another couple. That being said, there has to be clear communication beforehand about this and a signal that is known to either proceed, or that there is no way you or her want to fuck one party of the couple in question.
I've never been to M4, but what Charlotte has said I've heard echoed by many others.
I've never been to M4, but what Charlotte has said I've heard echoed by many others.
I can see that being the case on nights where they allow single men. I would suggest the OP go to a club on nights where only M/F, F/F couples and single females are allowed. Most clubs operate this way on Fri/Sat nights. But again, the chance of him finding a female to have sex with him while his friend watches is slim to none. Best to take another another female or SP to fulfill this fantasy, and will be cheaper in the long run.
Each time we've gone to Oasis, there's been quite a mix. Everything from quite a few hot 20-year-olds right through to 60+ couples. And as usual, there's always a few BBW in the mix.
Charlotte, if you're not comfortable having sex in one of the public rooms, another option is the shagin' wagon at Oasis. While it doesn't have a door, it's out of the way enough that people don't usual come into the room. We've had women on occasion stand outside and watch my wife and I going at it (which is a real turn-on for us) but nobody's ever walked right in.
Just out of curiosity, do you go to the clubs with clients or with a friend off the clock?
If she's an exhibitionist that's great, because she is going to get ALOT more attention than you at any club. She probably won't get the chance to see you have sex with another woman, but you'll have many opportunities to see her fend off the advances of other pushy men and couples. Also, people will see you together, a slightly mismatched couple frankly, and most of them will know what's going on: she's probably an escort/sugarbaby and you're a client. Many women in these clubs don't like escorts in their midst.
Every experience is of value, you might as well go for it, but keep expectations low.
Every experience is of value, you might as well go for it, but keep expectations low.
I'm not sure what clubs you're talking about, but we've been to Oasis many times and not once seen pushy men or couples. In fact, Oasis has a strict "only ask once" policy. Now, we've never been on a night when they allow single men (which just sounds like sausage fest) so I can't say about those evenings.
As far as being an older guy with a younger woman, nobody cares. People are there to have a good time not to judge anyone. They're not going to be whispering "oh, look at that guy, he's with a hooker".
Everyone we've met have at Oasis have always been super friendly and polite.
I agree Oasis would be my suggestion. They also do not allow single men in on most nights. They also have a unicorn night which you need to buy tickets ahead of time. But I found the couples in general really friendly. The key thing is- don't go there expecting to get some serious action. Go there and expect nothing and you will find yourself pleasantly surprised.
The shagin' wagon is great, perfect height for doing it and the audience isn't overly large either.
My partner is keen to go and she has never been there before. If we are looking to go during the week are there any nights better than others?
First Taste would be a good night. It's less crowded, and they give tours of the facilities for newbies.
Check out the calendar of events on their website for more details. I would also suggest avoiding evenings where single men are allowed, especially since your partner is new to the experience.
I've also noticed Friday evening to be fairly quiet until later on (after 10 pm), but that could also depend on what events are on.
Another option for quietude might be daytime, if that works with your schedules.
Enjoy!
Check out the calendar of events on their website for more details. I would also suggest avoiding evenings where single men are allowed, especially since your partner is new to the experience.
I've also noticed Friday evening to be fairly quiet until later on (after 10 pm), but that could also depend on what events are on.
Another option for quietude might be daytime, if that works with your schedules.
Enjoy!
Thanks. I think I saw her in one of the pics from the Naked Bike Ride.
I think Toni Johnson was a former owner.
"Feb 26, 2014 - Oasis only allows single men into their club one night a week: ... When the club was founded, then-owner Toni Johnson"
Some good comments and advice on this thread and I concur with Charlotte above with the caveat that there can be more or less men depending on the night you go. And just like at any bar, you have to charm your way into sex if you do find someone you like who`s not playing with anyone else. Another option to look into are private parties like the Swingers` house in Almonte. It`s much more likely to happen for you there.
And just another thought, I understand your connection as I have this with some as well intense enough that I could see taking our play to a sex club. She`s not expecting compensation which is fine but she might be offended if you did hire a second who was compensated when she was not, and so if you go that route I think you have to consider doing something for both women. You could do it in the form of a gift or fancy dinner if that made more sense in your situation. Or just talk to her about it. I wouldn`t want you to lose a good thing. Enjoy your lady!
-Mondays is reserved for the younger crowd, under 35
-Tuesdays and Wednesdays single men are allowed ($60) AND ladies get in for FREE, Latin Night seem to be popular due to the music and dancing
-rest of the days it's couples AND single ladies, entry till 7pm might be $60 but IF you plan to stay later it's $90+ depending on events taking place
-there's a daytime crowd that usually leaves around 6pm, Night time crowd starts arriving around 8pm
Looove Oasis, its tons of fun, I usually go solo during daytime but go with FWB when she's in town. Days single guys are allowed there might be a 10-1 ratio, just like a nightclub, some guys are like vultures around the ladies but most respect NO means NO, AND staff is always around making sure lady is OK.
When you arrive, just ask for a tour, staff is amazing.
Hope that helps,
LL
I've had quite a few sps tell me about Oasis, it sounds like a really cool place however it is definetly catered towards couples and women. Single guys get shafted as they have to pay more and can only attend certain days. and the days where single guys can attend they totally outnumber the women so it just ends up being another night club situation where all the men are competing for women. I wouldn't bother going to a place like that by myself. I'd definetly bring an SP as a date.
Yes, Oasis does cater more towards the ladies just like any nightclub. $60 for gents is reasonable, keeps a certain clientele happy while others from visiting. There's a place by Etobicoke that has entry of $20, never been there, not sure I want to go. For me it's like a day at the spa, soak up the rays, have drink poolside, read a book, people watch, aaand if I get lucky, I GET LUCKY ;o)
I'm sure most of the SPs that entertain at Oasis blend in BUTT at my last visit saw a very noticeable SP with her client. She was a blonde haired blue eyed MILF with man mades and he was young Asian about half her size, they just sat poolside without even exchanging a word, felt sorry for the kid. After about an hour they just got up and left, she was wearing a snug dress with stilletos, maybe her first time there. No one really cares what goes on there, but maybe be bit more discreet about it if to take an SP there, and have FUN!!!
LL
