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JamesDouglas

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My dad was diagnosed with stage 4 prostate cancer 16 months ago, which was very devastating news, and it still saddens me whenever I think about it. His Gleason score is 9, which means it's very aggressive, and when he was initially diagnosed it already spread to his bones. He received treatment as part of a clinical trial, and he's doing well right now, so I'm trying to stay positive and hoping for the best.

Can anyone share encouraging stories about prostate cancer? It would be very helpful.
 

escapefromstress

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As a SP who has specialized in providing therapy for ED, I've met hundreds of men who've had an enlarged prostate, prostate cancer, had chemo, prostate totally removed, etc. ... and I've obviously met many survivors. Diagnosis and treatment is getting better all the time, and having a positive mental attitude and support from family and friends will make a world of difference to him.

So tell him you heard from a friend who knows hundreds of men who've beaten it and gone on to live life and even have sex again afterwards.
 

IRIS

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iris4men.escortbook.com
http://yananow.net/

It's a helpful site. You can talk survivors...etc. Almost everything there what you want to know. Wish your father a speedy recovery. Go to PSA if you passed the age of 40. It cost around 40 CAD.
That recommended 50 years old is bullshit. Prostate cancer affected the younger generation these days already. That test is not prostate cancer specific but many times it can save your life because the high PSA shows something is wrong. The doctors will find the reason. Unfortunately many times the reason is the cancer. But not always!! It can be high from many other reasons.
 

JamesDouglas

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Thank you both for your encouraging posts. My dad's PSA when he was diagnosed was 4, which is not very high. I guess in his case the PSA didn't reveal much. Now his PSA is 0.05, so I'm hoping it stays that low.
 

IM469

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Lost my dad to prostate cancer when he was just 52. That is the reason I'm getting an exam every few years as recommended by my MD. I'd recommend the exam to anyone with either a family history or passing the 50 year mark.
 

lenny2

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Lost my dad to prostate cancer when he was just 52. That is the reason I'm getting an exam every few years as recommended by my MD. I'd recommend the exam to anyone with either a family history or passing the 50 year mark.
What's the exam & cost?
 

escapefromstress

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Prostate cancer patients report that surgery offers worst outcome on quality of life

At the moment a man hears a diagnosis of prostate cancer, his first thought is often of survival.

It's later — sometimes after treatment — that the patient considers the cost medical intervention can have on his sexual and mental well-being, said Prof. Gabriela Ilie, who is conducting research on quality of life for prostate cancer patients.

"At first the idea is, 'Do I want to survive, or do I want to have sexual function?'" the Dalhousie University scientist said. "Once that's settled, they become increasingly concerned about [the latter] following treatment."

But two other studies published Tuesday in the Journal of the American Medical Association explore the consequences of such decisions, by getting patients to rank their quality of life — defined as sexual, urinary and bowel function — in the two to three years following treatment.

Loss of sexual function

Both studies found that patients who chose a radical prostatectomy — the complete removal of the prostate gland — suffered the most significant drop in their quality of life, particularly related to sexual function.

Those who opted for active surveillance, the most conservative approach and one pioneered in Toronto, identified as having the best quality of life at three months and one year compared with all of their counterparts.

But at two years post-treatment, the results were about the same as those who underwent targeted radiation therapy, or brachytherapy, in which radioactive seeds are placed inside the tumour to target cancer cells and reduce damage to surrounding healthy tissue.

Active surveillance essentially monitors a tumour's growth.

Between 25 and 40 per cent of patients in Canada are candidates for that at diagnosis, said Dr. Neil Fleshner, a professor and chair within the University of Toronto's urology department. As the disease progresses, they may need more aggressive treatment.

But the uro-oncologic surgeon at the Princess Margaret Cancer Centre also noted the number of men who qualify for active surveillance has been dropping, which he blamed on changes to screening guidelines.

In 2014, a federal task force recommended that men younger than 55 should no longer take the prostate-specific antigen test — because both age and a prostate infection can elevate those levels, prompting unnecessary screening.

But Fleshner said that's resulted in tumours being discovered at a later stage, an argument he also brought up at the time of the task force's findings.

Surgery versus radiation therapies

Both JAMA studies focused exclusively on American prostate cancer patients, where it's more common than in Canada to operate on a tumour, Fleshner said. The two-year study looked at roughly 1,150 patients, all of whom chose their own treatment option — something that the specialist noted can create a bias.

He also argued that the analysis lacks a critical component for those making decisions either here or in the U.S.: it doesn't compare the long-term survival rates.

The authors looked at quality of life at three months, one year and two years post-treatment, and acknowledged that missing piece limits their findings.

There's minimal research on the long-term survival rates.

"The comparative effectiveness of contemporary treatment options for localized prostate cancer is a top research priority according to the National Academy of Medicine," one of the JAMA studies noted.

There was, however, a major study published in 2016 that found men diagnosed with early-stage prostate cancer who monitored their tumour's growth had the same 10-year survival rates as those who underwent surgery or radiation.

Mental well-being critical to future studies

Ilie said she's encouraged by the JAMA study's findings and the fact that others are studying the effect these treatments have on a man's quality of life.

The health researcher, however, said she would like to see someone follow patients for at least 10 years after treatment — and to ask questions about their mental well-being as well as their physical functions.

She's currently creating a framework for clinicians to follow up on these issues.

"We are sexual beings, we are beings with emotional states that vary," she said. "And yet, we don't know how we respond to this type of catalyst."

http://www.cbc.ca/news/health/prostate-cancer-treatment-1.4035330
 

escapefromstress

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This is a 'review' of a client who came to see me after he had prostate surgery, that I posted on perb years ago. ;)

Recovering from prostate surgery - a true story from several years ago …

One day I had a new client who was recovering from surgery to remove his prostate a few months previous. His session with me would be the first time he’d attempt to have an orgasm post-surgery, and he was pretty apprehensive about what might or might not happen.

I’ve had many clients come to see me for this same reason. No matter how much information you get from your surgeon, he’s can’t guarantee that you’ll be able to get an erection, feel any pleasure or achieve an orgasm, and he’s not going to help you find out!

Some guys don’t feel comfortable attempting to have sex with their SO after surgery, especially if they haven’t had a fulfilling active sex life in the recent past. When a man knows that he might lose the ability to get hard and to have sex, it can have a profound impact on his sexual confidence and self image.

Well, I started the massage as usual and we had a great conversation along the way. He seemed pretty relaxed until it was time for ‘the flip’, then I could feel him begin to tense up again when he realized we were about to find out if his equipment was still working.

Normally I would remain silent at this point in the massage, but I kept up the conversation to try to distract him from what my hands were doing.

His penis was pretty unresponsive at first, so I spent some time gently caressing his inner thighs and groin area for a while, held his testicles lightly, then absentmindedly put my hand on his penis without trying to stimulate him. It reminded me of how I would teach a shy puppy that it’s ok for him to trust my touch and not to be afraid of my hand.

He talked about how nervous he was feeling and he seemed to be experiencing the same type of anxiety you’d feel just before jumping out of an airplane while skydiving, or as you climb the final few inches at the top of the first big hill on a rollercoaster.

I poured warm oil into the palm of my hand, then slowly began to rub his penis and balls, using slow strokes from just underneath his balls up to the tip of his head, then back down again ... and I could see the blood flow starting to improve.

I climbed on the table and sat on top of him in reverse CG position, resting my buttocks just under his belly, so that his penis was in front of me. I began to stroke him a bit harder as I slid slowly along his stomach and pelvic area, mimicking sexual movements and rhythm as if we were actually having sex and he was buried deep inside me instead of being held in my hand.

He was still only slightly hard but I could tell by the sounds he was making that he was becoming highly aroused. Suddenly I heard him say,”ok ... I don’t know what’s going to happen here” ...

I watched in delight as his whole body began to shudder and shake as he experienced wave after wave of intense orgasm. I kept my hand on his penis, gently squeezing and stroking, responding to the spasms surging up and down his body from his head to his toes, prolonging the sensations for as long as possible. He was gasping and moaning and I think he would have levitated off the table if I hadn’t been holding him down. After a few minutes, I could tell he was reaching a point of sensory overload, so I bent forward a bit to hug his legs, calming him down with the sound of my voice, then we just stayed there motionless, breathing deeply, both of us shaken from the intensity of what just happened.

He began to sigh and chuckle with relief, and told me that it was as if the weight of the world had been lifted off his shoulders as he felt all the stress leave his mind. He was profoundly relieved to know that he could still experience orgasm, even though he could no longer ejaculate. He’d only been able to get semi-erect, but I told him that ‘practice, practice, practice’ would help heal nerve endings and restore blood flow and I believe his erections will continue to get stronger as time goes by.

I climbed down off the table, gently cleaned him up, made sure he was dressed properly, and gave him one more warm hug on his way out the door.

He encouraged me to write about his experience, and left with a euphoric glow on his face.

One of my most rewarding sessions ever!

:)

This client contacted me years later to thank me again, and let me know that his recovery was coming along nicely.
 

freebee_52

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I was diagnosed 7 years ago, through PSA testing it was caught very early. I started getting tested when I was 50, the levels were always low. One year the level spiked but was below what would have been a concern level if it had been my first test. Once cancer was confirmed I had to make a tough choice on treatment. As I was mid 50's I opted for surgery, could not live with the thought that it might spread. Have had cleared check ups ever since. Before anyone asks, there are potential side effects with the surgery. Luckily, my only issue is with ED but taking medication helps.
I encourage all men to get the test early, it can save your life.
 

FAST

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Did your doctor suspect you could have prostrate cancer, before your doctor started PSA testing ?

Thanks, FAST
 

shack

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I'd read an article based on the studies that efs quoted above. Not sure if it was mentioned in that post but 2 things I took away from my read were"

1)the fact that patients rated quality of life better with no treatment, only did so up to 2 years from the point of diagnosis. They did not ask the question of people who were patients longer than that, i.e. the condition may have worsened, and

2)there was a recommendation that PSA testing NOT be done on men under age 55.
 

freebee_52

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No he simply suggested I start getting tested to establish a base line PSA. It turned out to be an excellent suggestion.
 

escapefromstress

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I'd read an article based on the studies that efs quoted above. Not sure if it was mentioned in that post but 2 things I took away from my read were"

1)the fact that patients rated quality of life better with no treatment, only did so up to 2 years from the point of diagnosis. They did not ask the question of people who were patients longer than that, i.e. the condition may have worsened, and

That's a heavy duty decision for a guy to make. Roll of the dice on betting how long sexual function, and being able to pee and poop normally should be prioritized over treatment that could change it all forever.
 

FAST

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No he simply suggested I start getting tested to establish a base line PSA. It turned out to be an excellent suggestion.
I'll bring the establishing a baseline up with my doctor.

I do have an enlarged prostrate, nothing unusual for my age,...luckly my doctor is a small women,...so the yearly " inspection" isn't too bad. :)

FAST
 

shack

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That's a heavy duty decision for a guy to make. Roll of the dice on betting how long sexual function, and being able to pee and poop normally should be prioritized over treatment that could change it all forever.
Getting cancer is a heavy duty situation to start with. It should be up to him (with input from his loved ones) to decide which course of action he prefers.
 
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