Discretion Please

Sophia Sinclair said:

I have always had an issue with using terms of endearment flippantly or for any other person than a SO and here is why.

I have a great regular that truly loves his wife and is still immensely attracted to her who is hopeful that with time whatever she is going through will pass. He has spoken to older male friends about their experiences and for their advice. In the meantime he occasionally scratches the itch elsewhere as respectfully as possible.

Some time ago he approached a young lady and got a bad vibe about her so never followed up with her. She, wondering why and in an attempt to garner his patronage very unwisely randomly texted him, " Hi hun it's _ _ _ _ _ _". Given the time of day it normally wouldn't have presented a problem, but he just so happened to have left work early to go on a trip with his wife. He was driving and not expecting anything so senseless he agreed to his wife reading the text. It ended up being the worst trip of their married life and even though I helped him with damage control, things are still going down hill for them.

Although not done maliciously, this younger lady's utter carelessness has needlessly hurt his wife, possibly damaged his marriage beyond repair as his wife now distrusts him so much that she randomly calls to video chat with him and although I haven't completely lost him as a client, I rarely see him now which has ever so slightly negatively impacted my business. This I wouldn't mind so much if it was due to the happier circumstance of he and his wife resuming their sex life; a happy occasion.

Ladies, discretion is the cornerstone of our business. Let common sense prevail when contacting clients, prospective or otherwise. Please remember that our actions have far reaching consequences!

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Good story. A good warning. Never text us out of the blue but if you do make it innocuous like "would you donate to the conservative party?" so it looks like spam.

Either this guy is a pure dumb ass or he really wanted to subtly get caught.

Every industry girl I talk to would not be appropriate for my real phone, cause of the way they text.

The guy should have a burner phone or burner SIM.

Sorry, but this gets no simpathy from me. It is not the SPs fault the guy was careless.

I am in exactly the same situation as the guy is, married, loves his wife, and hobbies on the side. I have a burner phone and know how to cover my tracks.

If these guys feel insulted because I can't sympathize with them, then they lack self esteem, and need peoples approval for their contention.

If you need to hide this hobby then be smart and take every precaution necessary.

A SP should never be held responsible, ashamed, and made to feel guilty because a dumb ass client got caught. The client chose her business and the risks associated with it. It goes back to the client and not the SP.

Sophia Sinclair said:

I'm sorry that you feel this way but many of my clients contact me from personal/work cells without a hitch and have for years. A secondary cell could raise just as much if not more suspicion if found. When dealing with professional ladies texting rarely if ever presents a problem. Your lack of sympathy is probably very insulting to many of the gents on here who successfully hobby without using a separate cell. I can assure you that they are neither unintelligent nor secretly hoping to get caught. It is our responsibility to be discreet at all times as these men are placing their trust in us just as we must trust them to be equally discreet. It's a two way street!

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Please give examples, how can escorts respond to texts in a discreet way?

Discretion is maintained in many ways. Texting out of the blue, like cold calling, is a big no no. Responding many hours later should be avoided, unless you have given her permission to do so and in doing this, make the text innocuous, like having called the wrong number because most guys will recognize the number and if they can, will respond back or delete if in the wrong company.

dirkd101 said:

Discretion is maintained in many ways. Texting out of the blue, like cold calling, is a big no no. Responding many hours later should be avoided, unless you have given her permission to do so and in doing this, make the text innocuous, like having called the wrong number because most guys will recognize the number and if they can, will respond back or delete if in the wrong company.

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This^

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I have a burner phone and know how to cover my tracks.

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Where do you hide your hobby phone? If your wife finds it, how would you explain it?

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If these guys feel insulted because I can't sympathize with them, then they lack self esteem, and need peoples approval for their contention.

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LOL.

Well I will have no sympathy for you when your wife finds your burner phone.

This has been debated to death on the site and there are differing opinions. I use a text app that is well hidden on my phone and is set to not pop with text notifications. My wife finding a burner phone would raise far more suspicion.

Sophia Sinclair said:

I have always had an issue with using terms of endearment flippantly or for any other person than a SO and here is why.

I have a great regular that truly loves his wife and is still immensely attracted to her who is hopeful that with time whatever she is going through will pass. He has spoken to older male friends about their experiences and for their advice. In the meantime he occasionally scratches the itch elsewhere as respectfully as possible.

Some time ago he approached a young lady and got a vibe about her so never followed up. She, wondering why and in an attempt to garner his patronage very unwisely randomly texted him, " Hi hun it's _ _ _ _ _ _". Given the time of day it normally wouldn't have presented a problem but he just so happened to have left work early to go on a trip with his wife. He was driving and not expecting anything so senseless agreed to his wife reading the text. It ended up being the worst trip of their married life and even though I helped him with damage control, things are still going down hill for them.

Although not done maliciously, this younger lady's utter carelessness has needlessly hurt his wife, possibly damaged his marriage beyond repair as his wife now distrusts him so much that she randomly calls to video chat with him and although I haven't completely lost him as a client, due to his situation I rarely see him now which has ever so slightly negatively impacted my business. I wouldn't mind it so much if it was due to the happier circumstance of he and his wife resuming their sex life; a joyful occasion.

Ladies, discretion is the cornerstone of our business. Let common sense prevail when contacting clients, prospective or otherwise. Please remember that our actions have far reaching consequences!

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Another intelligent thread from an incredibly classy lady. Why am i not surprised. Sophia, you're awesome!

herbnessman said:

I use a text app that is well hidden on my phone and is set to not pop with text notifications.

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Hi, what text app do you use?

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Either this guy is a pure dumb ass or he really wanted to subtly get caught.

Every industry girl I talk to would not be appropriate for my real phone, cause of the way they text.

The guy should have a burner phone or burner SIM.

Sorry, but this gets no simpathy from me. It is not the SPs fault the guy was careless.

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So you're the guy, who upon seeing an SP at Wal-Mart shopping with her family, will point and yell across the store "Hey, it's Luscious Lucy... Hey, did you get the cum out of your hair after you sucked me dry... God that was the best $300 I ever spent."

Discretion is a FUNDAMENTAL rule here.

Buick Mackane said:

Please give examples, how can escorts respond to texts in a discreet way?

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DISCRETE - "It seems I got a text from this number, but I don't recognize it. If you meant it for me, please send again, and if not, this is to let you know your text did not go through to the person you intended."

punter said:

Hi, what text app do you use?

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I use text plus but there are others as well. Fake name and assigned number, buried in a folder on my phone, I delete received texts as needed and notifications are off. Gives me as much discretion as I need.

I figure if it gets to the point my wife is snooping that much on my phone i am already caught. LOL

WTH is your problem??? This post makes no sense and out of context of anything being said here.

Its like me saying so you are the guy who is a serial stalker and spams every SPs with requests for freebies and has psychopath tendencies.

Guess its free rain let's just spam the shit out of everybody with useless nonsense.

For the record it is never OK to acknowledge an SP in public like you describe, or to try make any contact. This has been discussed many times in the past and is a big taboo in adult industry. You never cross your personal life or her personal life like that.

NHFL said:

So you're the guy, who upon seeing an SP at Wal-Mart shopping with her family, will point and yell across the store "Hey, it's Luscious Lucy... Hey, did you get the cum out of your hair after you sucked me dry... God that was the best $300 I ever spent."

Discretion is a FUNDAMENTAL rule here.

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I would hate to be in that position, and would never ask for sympathy.

The person we should be sympathetic is for the guys wife, and the FACT that her careless dumb ass husband just ruined their connection, her truth and has shaken her world.

From a clients perspective it makes sense to use a burner phone.

From an SP perspective it makes sense to have clients use their real phones, particularly because of safety reasons.

Its easy to hide a burner phone or burner SIM.

Yes I also agree it is not cool for SPs to spam the clients finishing for business cause their business is slow.

herbnessman said:

LOL.

Well I will have no sympathy for you when your wife finds your burner phone.

This has been debated to death on the site and there are differing opinions. I use a text app that is well hidden on my phone and is set to not pop with text notifications. My wife finding a burner phone would raise far more suspicion.

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I am very wary of returning texts or voicemails when some time has gone by. I would never text a client out of the blue unless I know he's single and he has said it's okay. It was irresponsible for that SP to send that message out of the blue.