Since I think this is the weekend I might finally 'come out', profession wise, to my parents (mom had a bad accident, and I don't want there to be things unsaid between us), a recent email I received has been raising some questions for me.
I have a sort of 'ad hoc' advice column on my website, and I'd like input from SPs and clients on her questions. If it's OK, I'd like to use snippets of your responses to address her questions. I'll do so anonymously, of course, and only with permission.
At any rate, here's the email. What would *you* tell her to do? I've snipped bits for brevity and privacy.
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Dear Morgan:
.. here is a situation for you. It's maybe something you've experienced so I thought you might have some ideas about it.
I'm an escort too just to let you know. I work for (an agency) because I'm in school and I like just being able to call up and book on and do some work. I wouldn't be able to do all the work of being an independent and I really like my agency.... So I only want to do this until graduation and then move on with my life.
My problem is about boyfriends, now and later. What do I do about my job? Do I tell them? What if I do and then we break up and they tell everyone? Crappy stuff like that happens during break ups so it's a worry. And what if they suddenly think I'm some kind of slut? ... And if I don't tell them what do I say I do on weekends? Should I just stay single and play it safe?
And even after I am not working anymore, do I tell them that I was once an escort, or should I keep it secret? Isn't it bad to keep secrets from the person you are supposed to love, even if the secret might hurt them?
I've been sort of casually dating this guy I like, but I limit him to lunch and things like that. I like him but I can't go any further because all of this makes me lose sleep at night. It's not my job I'm worried about it's how people feel about me doing this job! Or should I just be "out and proud"?
Signed, Worried Working Girl
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Morgan
I have a sort of 'ad hoc' advice column on my website, and I'd like input from SPs and clients on her questions. If it's OK, I'd like to use snippets of your responses to address her questions. I'll do so anonymously, of course, and only with permission.
At any rate, here's the email. What would *you* tell her to do? I've snipped bits for brevity and privacy.
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Dear Morgan:
.. here is a situation for you. It's maybe something you've experienced so I thought you might have some ideas about it.
I'm an escort too just to let you know. I work for (an agency) because I'm in school and I like just being able to call up and book on and do some work. I wouldn't be able to do all the work of being an independent and I really like my agency.... So I only want to do this until graduation and then move on with my life.
My problem is about boyfriends, now and later. What do I do about my job? Do I tell them? What if I do and then we break up and they tell everyone? Crappy stuff like that happens during break ups so it's a worry. And what if they suddenly think I'm some kind of slut? ... And if I don't tell them what do I say I do on weekends? Should I just stay single and play it safe?
And even after I am not working anymore, do I tell them that I was once an escort, or should I keep it secret? Isn't it bad to keep secrets from the person you are supposed to love, even if the secret might hurt them?
I've been sort of casually dating this guy I like, but I limit him to lunch and things like that. I like him but I can't go any further because all of this makes me lose sleep at night. It's not my job I'm worried about it's how people feel about me doing this job! Or should I just be "out and proud"?
Signed, Worried Working Girl
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Morgan