The muddle of the puddle .
Il Ventilatore et al,
pool is but a mere puddle, just trying to muddle his way through constantly swimming thoughts. Now if we can only solve this muddle of the puddle. It is a bit of a befuddle ...
That should have read: Enjoy it while you can ! I don't know how old you are but as you age you will
most likely last longer
When I was younger, I had "subliminal" ejaculations, but only with certain girls. Now that I'm older it can range from anything between 5 minutes and a few hours depending on compatibility and other variables.
Like in any relationship, sometimes these problems can be worked out, once you get to know each others triggers. I would presume that finding an SP/MPA that is compatible to your needs and to work up a rapport may help eleviate the situation.
So on one end of the spectrum we have those who last too long and the other end are those who, can't last long enough; at least in their personal view. I tend to lean toward the former category these days, which can be a problem. Funnily enough my favorite MPA was not actually very compatible with me in that respect. I don't really worry too much about it though. A sexual experience is so much more than a males ability to perform.
Anyway, there was this one MPA that I saw a few years back. The place was unlicensed. She barely talked, wasn't very charismatic but for some reason I couldn't last more than a few seconds after contact. Talk about hair trigger. Her technique wasn't especially good but there was obviously something she was doing during the session that was triggering my senses to an elevated height. I tend to think it was something to do with the "teasing factor" In those days, I was not aware of the extent of "extras" nevermind SOG. So I would take nude but she would leave her clothes on during the initial massage. She always wore a skirt, would straddle my back during the massage and ever so lightly brush her crotch against my butt only to retreat once again. That coupled with some very light teasing in the male A spot region and her exotic looks, is what I think did the trick. And in my case, believe me, when I say it is a "trick" Maybe her personality played a part as well. You know, the ol' dragon lady/ice princess syndrome.
Anyhow, I tried everything to attempt and prepare myself for this girl, and I mean everything ! Short of using novocaine, that is.
I'd pace up and down outside trying to psych myself up. Eventually I just gave up, but I have to admit although the climax was short I enjoyed the build up and would have gone back to see her once in a while if she was still around. My perspective on the whole thing has changed considerably since those days.
So what's my point ? I have no clue. I was getting to into the moment. Hmmm. Oh yeah, I think my point was that the climax is not the most important part. If we put too much emphasis on our ability to perform it distracts from the experience. After all, in the case of MPA's/ SP's they have usually seen it all.
I think societies emphasis on a males ability to perform may be a bit of a facade. If only society in general could be as open about these things as we are in the board communities, it would take away a lot of pressure. Of course there is the factor of the male feeling he is getting less than the full experience, but even that can be an illusion created by society.
Update : I just realized that Thorson made some similar points. Oh well, it was fun reminiscing. Good points ! *s*