Sightings.....

A very sore subject.......

I may get a little riled up here so please be forewarned.......

I think sightings are a great thing, I love it when someone has taken so much time looking at my site and pictures that when they see me in public the recognize my face.

However, having said that, that gives a person NO RIGHT to approach the SP/MP or whatever.

Dana recently made the decision to blur out her face after almost 2 years of proudly showing it off. This really saddened me but I fully understand her decision to do so and I won't question her on it. She has had enough, plain and simple and I really don't blame her.

It absolutely amazes me the gall that some men have. Now of course I am not speaking of all men or even most men, but there are enough who don't understand the concept of privacy and respect.

I guess one would argue that we should expect it since we show our faces, why should we expect it? Would you expect a lady you have visited to walk up to you and say "hi, how have you been?" while at the mall with your wife? Not likely, and would like to think that the ladies out there are smart enough to respect the clients privacy as well.

You just have to think how would it feel if the tables were turned?

Sure most of my friends and family know what I do, but some of them do not. Consider this, You see me alone at the mall or wherever, I seem to be alone, you approach me and say "hello Sasha" just as the friend I was shopping with returns from another store and hears you call me Sasha. She is gonna wonder what that was all about don't ya think? Especially if it happens more than once.

I still show my face on the website because in some ways I really don't care, if someone approached me I would not hesitate to tell them to f**k off right to their face. You violate my privacy and that is what you get. Dana, on the other hand is a little to polite ;-)

I would much rather recieve an email after the sighting saying "hey I saw you at (insert location here) this afternoon, was that you? if it was you looked great blah blah blah.

As I mentioned this is definitely not a post addressed to the majority, but for those of you who don't realize it. It is best to admire or observe from afar.

Thanks

I have had occasions when I am out alone or with personal friends or family and I have been sighted by and have sighted a client. My reaction is always to smile warmly and politely, as I do to anyone - friends, strangers, man or beast - and proceed along my merry way without further acknowledgement. My private life is just that, "PRIVATE" and so is the life of my clients. As I would not invade their privacy during their private time away from the hobby so too do I hope that they do not invade mine. Not only should respect be shown during "hobby time", it should be shown when one is away from the "hobby" as well. The best way to acknowledge and respect is with a wordless smile that should be freely given to anyone who comes in contact with you in any case. It's free, unobtrusive and leaves no room for discomfort which leads to potential disclosure of sensitive and hazardous information which can destroy relationships. As usual, this is just MY opinion and one of MY life rules.
Peace always,
TJ

I have to agree. I have not seen any of my visitors outside the parlour, but if I were to see one, I would certainly *not* say anything to him, as I would expect him to say nothing to me. It's as simple as respect. I have a few guys come see me that are married, and how do I know if they are with their wives or girlfriends. I don't want to invade their privacy, so they should respect mine as well. I'd like to think, however, that all the men that see me are complete gentlemen and would never do such a thing, but I have to live in the real world.

i've had some sp's say to me, "if you see me on the street, stop and say hello, we'll say that we knew each other from "x"..." i've appreciated that, since it's taken the guess work out of the situation.

a dancer i used to know, who performed wearing a wig and a penciled-in mole, liked to keep her identity quite secret -- she was also a singer (she invited me, for instance, to hear her perform at the imperial room at the royal york). but she would tell me how she'd be walking down the street and recognize guys for whom she'd lap danced, and she could tell (or so she thought) that they were looking at her trying to figure out why she kinda looked familiar. this used to unnerve her ....

Privacy Upheld

Personally, I would prefer that an SP NOT approach me at all in public. This hobby is all about discretion.

My family and friends have no clue that I'm engage in this form of entertainment from time to time. And yes, I still will leave them in the dark on this aspect of my life.

Secondly, I never used my real name with ladies I meet. So, if my friends or family members hears the name that an SP calls me by their suspicion antenna would be on high alert.

Eye contact and a smile from a distant would be alright.

Say hi to the endocrinologist for me Sara. And of course, the same greetings is extended to the pediatrician.

It's only ever happened to me once before. I was walking by a building when an SP walked out of it. It was daytime in downtown Toronto with a typical bunch of people out and about.

I just smiled and said hello to her. She smiled at me and said hello. Then we walked by each other and went on our way.

Overall I think it depends on the situation. A discreet smile or hello is OK. But if either party is with someone else, it's best to pretend you don't know each other.

As varied as the individuals...

I have to concur with Sara - as big a city as it is, it's amazing how small it can get... I can only imagine what it must be like for Sasha in Barrie (my hometown)
The few "chance encounters" I've had have all been different. In all cases though, there was the respectful, discretionary "feel out" of the situation. Once "she" was with someone, so a distant, polite smile was exchange, once I was was with someone - the same, and a couple of times we just greeted each other, asked how each was doing, and had a coffee...
So, I can definitely, concretely say from my experience ...

It depends...

Key words as stated in my previous reply: Respect, Privacy, Discretion and Professionalism.

yes, it has happened to me

It has happened numerous times to me.Maybe I have bad luck, as I don't work many hours and see few people.But I appreciate the fact that I haven't been approached and appreciate the consideration given to me by these people.One time I was at a well known restauraunt on a date (personal date) All I can say is thanks for not approaching me whew!!!! The posts on this thread are great, seems a lot of fellas appreciate discretion and I appreciate them

sightings

I posted on Sacha's picture thread something to the effect that upon very very close inspection of her photos that she had posted that I believe that I had spotted her in a certain downtown Toronto spot a month or two previous.
That evening, she was with somebody at the time (eating pizza) and I was with somebody as well at the next table. She looked great but it never crossed my mind to actually go up to her and chat.
If she were 100% alone would I have? I don't honestly know.
Kramer

Yikes - a typo

Sasha's going to get me for that one.

Well Kramer, if you saw us eating pizza then it wasn't me!

I was at Vinnies a couple of months ago though, the only time I have ever been there it was fun!

I appreciate that most of you would not approach a lady if seen in public. Of course the situation may be different for a regular client depending on the circumstances. I have met up with quite a few regulars in public and have no problem stopping to chat if we are both alone of course, and it is only on the approval of the other person that I would do such a thing. It is not being rude, just polite and discreet to walk by with out any acknowledgement of your "friend". The problem Dana had was that people she had NEVER met were approaching her. That is completely unacceptable

Contrary to popular belief, yes I can look bad most of you have never seen me when I wake up in the morning ;-)

Thanks for the comments Diane they were very sweet. You were nice to me as well! But then again I didn't think you wouldn't be!

Sheik, what are you hiding for?

Kramer, when I find you I am going to kick your as*.......

sara@select said:

When you see a face you know..what do you do???? If you are both alone do you approach and chat? Smile? Wink? Or exchange knowing glances? Of course the reaction would be quite different if you were both in the company of others. Would love to hear personal stories and thoughts.

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Depends on th SP. I met one SP at her place of work purely by accident. She works for an airline and was startled a bit to see me. In the end we kind of gave each other knowing looks and I had a session with her afterwards. We talked and laughed about it.

rama putri said:

Depends on th SP. I met one SP at her place of work purely by accident. She works for an airline and was startled a bit to see me. In the end we kind of gave each other knowing looks and I had a session with her afterwards. We talked and laughed about it.

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Offhand I'd say that if she was an SP then for certain she's not with Air Canada.

I usually call out their name and try to book an appointment, no mater who they are with.
Seriously though, a quick glance and I am on my way. I for one do not wish to know about anyones personal life, and would prefer they do not know about mine.